Manage episode 522841871 series 2220917
If you're always the one who shows up for everyone else, this episode reveals why that strength can quietly become the very thing holding you back.
Show Notes — "Stop Helping Everyone Except Yourself"In this episode, Baylor exposes one of the most overlooked forms of burnout: being the reliable one. The fixer. The hero. The go-to problem solver.
The people pleaser.
It sounds noble. It feels selfless. And you may genuinely believe you're just "helping." But Baylor breaks down how people-pleasing often turns into a subtle, dangerous cycle where you're pouring into everyone else and leaving yourself empty.
He explains how the biggest question every people pleaser must ask is: "Is this truly helping, or am I just supplying the fuel for someone else's laziness?"
You'll hear Baylor unpack why lazy people naturally gravitate toward reliable people, how "emergencies" magically become your problem, and why the person who always helps is rarely the one who gets helped in return.
Then he goes deeper:
How reciprocity reveals someone's true intentions
Why "thank you" doesn't always mean gratitude
Why being dependable becomes your identity
How manipulation hides inside convenience
Why the fear of disappointing others keeps you stuck
Most importantly, Baylor challenges you to stop making everyone else the priority—and finally make the person in the mirror your first obligation.
When you do that, you don't just help yourself… you actually start helping the right people in the right ways.
What You'll LearnThe hidden burnout cycle of people pleasers
How to identify one-sided and non-reciprocal relationships
Why lazy or unmotivated people always find "the reliable one"
How to know if you're genuinely helping or being used
Why your identity becomes tied to fixing others
How to reclaim your time, energy, and self-respect
Why the person in the mirror must get the best of you
How to set boundaries that protect your peace and purpose
"You are a people too—stop pleasing everyone except the one in the mirror."
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