A deep, honest conversation about why high-achieving women find it so hard to receive care, support, and pleasure—and what actually has to shift in their nervous system, identity, and relationships to change that.

In this episode of The Aligned Powerhouse Podcast, I sit down with my dear friend and former supervisor, Dr. Bradford White, a licensed psychologist who specializes in family-of-origin trauma, complex PTSD, and borderline personality disorder.

Together, we unpack why powerful, high-performing women have such a hard time receiving- care, attention, emotional support, and even pleasure and how early conditioning, authoritarian parenting, spiritual trauma, and perfectionism shape the way they move through love, sex, and partnership (and what to do about it).

We explore:

• How growing up in chaos, criticism, or performance-based love wires you to over-function and over-control
• Why it’s so hard to turn off “boss mode” at home and actually let someone take care of you
• The common dynamics Dr. White sees in partners of high-achieving women (and why “why can’t he just lead more?” is more complicated than it sounds)
• How perfectionism functions as a trauma response, not a personality trait
• Concrete communication tools (talking + listening boundaries) couples can use to have real conversations about sex, resentment, needs, and power dynamics

This episode is for you if you’re successful on paper, exhausted in your body, and quietly craving a relationship where you don’t have to hold it all together to be loved.

Resources:

Dr. Bradford White's You Tube Channel

Dr. Bradford White's Website

Connect with Dr. White on Instagram

Connect with Dr. White on LinkedIn

Dr. White's Email: [email protected]

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