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Navigating separation and divorce is emotionally charged and legally complex, requiring careful consideration of finances, children’s needs, and your own well-being throughout the process. Family law solicitor Hilary O’Connor offers clear guidance on managing this challenging life transition.

• Mediation should be the initial step in separation proceedings as it is free and enables couples to resolve issues collaboratively.
• Living “separate and apart” for one year qualifies for separation in Ireland, while divorce requires two years out of the last three.
• Emotions run high during separation – being “too mad and too sad” can impair decision-making and needlessly prolong the process.
• The family home often becomes a central issue, but financial realities mean that one household budget must now support two homes.
• Pensions are just as important as property in settlement discussions, yet are frequently overlooked.
• Access to children is the child’s right to see both parents, not a “gift” the primary carer can withhold.
• The legal process includes submitting affidavits of means and welfare, with full financial disclosure required for settlements.
• Qualified cohabitants (those living together for 2+ years with children or 5+ years without) have similar, though not identical, rights to married couples.
• Maintenance for children continues until the age of 18 (or 23 if in full-time education), while spousal maintenance may be lifelong.
• Self-care is essential – seek counselling, surround yourself with supportive people, and “stock up on vitamins” as your immune system will be affected.

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