Overwhelmed? Try mastering your boundaries.

Boundaries are a hot topic that every psychologist talks to their clients about.

I see it a lot in my practice. Many of my one-on-one clients tell me that they think they should have strong boundaries.

But they're quite hard on themselves when they detect where they've let boundaries slide.

The thing is, it's not their fault if they're not good at boundaries (the same goes for you, too 😉).

Why are boundaries so hard?

Boundaries can be challenging because we were raised and educated in a system that expects compliance.

We were generally not allowed to voice our opinions to parents or teachers and were punished if we did.

Of course, there's a time and place for parents and teachers to have expectations and for kids to accept influence.

In past generations, however, that was the ONLY option, and children were seen as disrespectful if they disagreed. We now know that high expectations, holding children accountable, and consideration of their thoughts and feelings have the best outcomes.

Unfortunately, many of us were left with the lasting impact of being silenced.

We learned that other people's comfort was more important than our own and that there were consequences to making other people upset.

Now, we know that our well-being is just as important as other people's and that we're not responsible for other people's feelings.

The good news is that you already have boundaries in some areas. Now, we need to apply these boundaries to ALL areas of our lives.

If you find yourself feeling overwhelmed, ask yourself if it's because of a lack of boundaries.

This is a REALLY important topic, and we need to keep talking about boundaries. You'll hear some of the reasons why in this week's episode of The Overwhelm Cure. You'll also hear:

• Practical steps, including what to say to help set and stick to boundaries in various settings, such as with kids, at work, and with friends and family

• The common misconceptions many people have around boundaries

• Brené Brown's research on the correlation between boundaries and generosity

• Why identifying our feelings and taking action when boundaries are crossed is essential to upholding boundaries without guilt or conflict

• The trick to holding strong boundaries without guilt (the answer might surprise you).

Sending you strength as you explore your boundaries this week. If you need support in this area, you're not alone. Get in touch at KimberlyKnull.com.

Timestamps:

00:00 Introduction to Setting Boundaries 00:51 The Importance of Boundaries 01:26 Common Misconceptions About Boundaries 03:04 The Impact of Upbringing on Boundaries 13:09 Practical Steps to Setting Boundaries 17:19 Handling Reactions to Boundaries 25:38 The Link Between Compassion, Empathy, and Boundaries 27:49 Managing Our Thoughts and Emotions Concerning Boundaries 30:36 Setting Boundaries without Guilt 36:15 Conclusion and Final Thoughts