There’s a lot of confusion today about what roles in marriage are supposed to look like. The world either mocks God’s design or distorts it. But Scripture is clear—God established order in marriage not for control, but for harmony. When we understand our roles through the lens of Christ, we see that every assignment in marriage is sacred.

Our springboard for today’s discussion is:"Submitting to one another out of reverence for Christ." — Ephesians 5:21

Let’s set the record straight: biblical headship is not about dominance. And biblical submission is not about weakness. These roles are rooted in love, humility, and sacrificial service—modeled after Christ Himself.

Husbands are called to lead, yes—but to lead like Jesus: with strength, tenderness, wisdom, and sacrifice. Ephesians 5:25 says, “Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.” That’s not passive. That’s not controlling. That’s Christlike.

Wives are called to submit—not in fear, but in trust. And not to a tyrant, but to a man who is submitted to God. This kind of submission reflects Christ’s own humility and strength. It says, “I support your leadership because I trust the God you’re following.”

And don’t miss the foundation—mutual submission. Before Paul speaks to husbands and wives, he says: “Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.” That means both husband and wife yield to the Spirit, serve each other, and put one another above themselves.

This isn’t about competition. It’s about completion. Two roles. One mission. One kingdom.

Question of the Day:Are you walking in your God-given role with humility, strength, and surrender?

Mini Call to Action:Sit down with your spouse and ask: “How can I love and serve you better in the role God’s given me?” Then listen—truly listen—and act.

Let’s Pray:Lord, help us walk in the design You created. Teach us to lead with love, to support with strength, and to serve one another out of reverence for You. May our marriage reflect Your heart. In Jesus’ name, amen.

Let’s Get To Work!When marriage follows heaven’s order, earth sees heaven’s beauty.

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