Welcome to another episode of the Prostate Cancer Patient Empowerment Program (PC-PEP) podcast, proudly funded by Movember through a Health Equity grant awarded to Drs. Gabriela Ilie and Rob Rutledge and delivered in partnership with PC-PEP™ at Dalhousie University.

In this episode, Gabriela speaks with Richard from Ottawa, a warm and thoughtful stage 4 prostate cancer survivor who calls PC-PEP “the missing chapter” and “the missing leg of the chair” in his cancer journey.

Richard was diagnosed during COVID after months of crippling lower back pain, a trip to the ER, and an MRI revealing widespread metastatic disease. Given a prognosis of only a few years, he immediately became his own advocate—pushing for faster appointments, joining a clinical trial that included immunotherapy, and saying yes to anything that might help him live well for as long as possible.

But the most powerful parts of this conversation go well beyond treatment.

What Richard Shares in This Episode

1. The shock of a stage 4 diagnosis, delivered alone

With his wife listening by phone from home, Richard heard the words “lesions too numerous to count” in his lungs, bones, and prostate. The hospital was quiet and half-empty due to COVID. He was told he likely had 2–4 years to live.
He has already outlived that estimate.

2. The profound fatigue of treatment— and choosing adaptation, not resistance

Radiation and systemic therapy left him exhausted for months. Instead of fighting his body, he allowed himself to rest and recover:
“If this is my life right now, I’ll sleep. I’ll rest. I’ll work with it.”

3. The steadying power of faith and gratitude

Richard describes a deeply personal moment—feeling a hand on his shoulder and hearing the words “Everything’s going to be all right.”
This, combined with a daily gratitude practice, shifted how he related to fear, illness, and uncertainty.

4. Community, friendship, and rediscovering joy

Weekly buddy calls, dragon boat races, and the global PC-PEP family gave Richard a sense of purpose, camaraderie, and even playfulness:
“I felt like a teenager again—feet in the sand, under the tent with friends.”

5. PC-PEP as the missing chapter

After attending Gabriela and Rob’s talk in Ottawa in 2022, Richard signed up before the presentation even ended. PC-PEP gave him structure, strength, and connection through:

• Daily exercise and Kegels
• Breathing and meditation practices
• Nutrition and cooking guidance
• Relationship and social tools
• Meaning-making and spiritual reflection
• Monthly video conferences offering updated science and real community

6. Heart health and prostate cancer—an often-overlooked link

Motivated by PC-PEP’s emphasis on heart-health monitoring for men on ADT, Richard helped organize mobile cardiac screenings in Ottawa. Several men were referred to specialists—issues that otherwise would have gone undetected.

7. A radiologist’s advice that became a philosophy

One of his doctors told him something he’ll never forget:
“Every day, be good to yourself.”
For Richard, that means resting when tired, staying socially connected, understanding his medications, moving his body, and allowing himself joy—without denying the reality of cancer.

Key Takeaways for Cancer Survivors

• Be your own advocate.

“No one is more interested in your health than you.”
Ask questions, request second opinions, call the hospital, understand your meds, and bring concerns to your medical team.

• Adaptation is strength.

Fighting fatigue often backfires. Allowing your body to rest can be life-giving.

• Spirituality, gratitude, and inner grounding matter.

Whatever you

EMPOWER YOURSELF!