In this episode, Dr. David Zierk unpacks what really drives your reactions when tension rises—whether you freeze, fight, fix, or finesse your way through conflict. We all have a conflict personality—a reflex we fall into when emotions run high. But it’s not who you are; it’s the person you become to protect a connection or preserve control. In this episode, Dr. Z reveals the five conflict styles (and their more relatable nicknames) and offers a practical way to rethink your reactions before they rule you.

Episode Highlights:

00:00 — Setting the Scene: Everyday Conflict

01:20 — Conflict Isn’t Who You Are

02:26 — What Shapes Your Style

03:03 — Mapping the 5 Styles

04:00 — The 5 Conflict Personalities

10:43 — The Real Problem Isn’t Disagreement

11:45 — Rethink Reflection and Call to Action

12: 51 — Micro Rethinks

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About Dr. David Zierk:

With a substantive background in psychological work with individuals and teams, Dr. Zierk enjoys bringing his experience to the stage and corporate clients by providing them with the tools and language necessary for effective outcomes. Most recently, he’s published a book called Mind Rules: Who’s In Control—You or Your Mind?

Dr. Zierk is a graduate of the University of Denver with a Master of Arts and a Doctorate in Clinical Psychology. He earned his Master of Arts in Counseling Psychology at the University of Colorado. He’s affiliated with the American Psychological Association, American Psychotherapy Association, Association of Family and Conciliation Courts, and National Academy of Neuropsychology.

He currently resides in Denver, Colorado, with his wife and has three children. When he’s not on stage or working with a team, David loves to cycle in the mountains with his wife, Carol.