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Let me guess: you've read Marcus Aurelius. You know some things are up to you and some aren't. And yet... you still lie awake replaying conversations, spiraling over outcomes, or feeling like a failure when things don't go your way.
Yeah. Me too.
Here's the problem: the dichotomy of control is brilliant philosophy—but it's terrible instructions for real life. People hear "focus on what you control" and either become passive ("guess I'll just accept everything") or confused ("wait, don't my actions influence outcomes?").
Today I'm fixing that.
I'm walking you through the Epictetan Control Framework (ECF)—a 6-step process that upgrades Stoicism's most famous tool into something you can actually use without your brain short-circuiting.
We're covering:
- Why even smart people misuse the dichotomy
- The one question that instantly clarifies what's "up to you"
- How to plan like a strategist and evaluate like a Sage
- Real examples: job hunting, tough conversations, and everything in between
- The "reserve clause" that makes you bulletproof
- A field exercise to run the framework on YOUR stressor (right now)
By the end, you'll have a tool you can use in two minutes, any time anxiety or frustration tries to hijack your day.
This is Stoicism that actually works. No fluff. No philosophy-speak. Just clarity, action, and peace.
Let's go.
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