Let's be real about something: you can want a secure relationship all you want, but if your subconscious believes you're unworthy of love, guess which one wins every time.

In this episode, I'm joined by Sim from Heart & Mind Business Coaching to dive deep into the four attachment styles and why understanding them is the key to breaking toxic relationship cycles. Sim has a background in psychology and is certified in integrated attachment theory, and she breaks down exactly how our childhood programming creates subconscious patterns that sabotage our adult relationships. This isn't just theory - we get into the practical tools for identifying your core wounds and the specific technique for reprogramming your subconscious mind.

You'll hear us do a live core wound identification exercise (using my recent trigger around financial stress), learn the exact steps for subconscious reprogramming, and understand why avoidant partners aren't villains - they're just trying to feel safe. Plus Sim shares the gas tank analogy that will completely change how you think about choosing partners and the difference between codependent and interdependent love.

What we're covering:

• The four attachment styles and how childhood experiences create each pattern
• Why your subconscious mind (95%) overrides your conscious desires (5%) in relationships
• The live core wound identification exercise and what my triggers revealed
• The exact subconscious reprogramming technique with evidence and alpha/theta brain waves
• Why avoidants pull away and how anxious types can stop triggering the cycle

Connect with Sim:
Instagram: @heartnmindcoaching
Website: heartnmindcoaching.com
Podcast: The Post-Hustle Era

Ready to Transform From the Inside Out?

If this conversation opened your eyes to patterns you've been unconsciously running and you're ready to do the deep work of healing your attachment wounds, I have a few spots open for 1:1 coaching. This is about identifying your core wounds, reprogramming your subconscious patterns, and learning to love from a place of fullness instead of emptiness. Send me a DM if you're ready to break the cycle.

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Be brave, not perfect, my babe!

Xx, Kaija

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Disclaimer: This podcast shares personal stories, experiences, and reflections on relationships, consciousness work, and personal growth. The content is not intended as a substitute for professional mental health support, medical advice, or therapeutic treatment. If you're experiencing crisis, abuse, or severe mental health symptoms, please reach out to a qualified professional. Your journey is your own - trust yourself to know what support you need and when you need it.