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Summary
In this episode, Sara and I open up about shame, trauma, and what it really means to lose yourself in a narcissistic relationship. We talk honestly about our own experiences, the pain, the patterns, and the shame that keeps so many survivors silent. We also unpack the struggles of co-parenting with a narcissist, the role addiction can play, and why honesty with yourself and others is such a big part of healing. This one’s about reclaiming your voice, finding support, and learning to stand in your own truth again.
Takeaways
- Shame can influence our choices in relationships.
- Past trauma can affect self-worth and relationship dynamics.
- Support systems are crucial for healing from trauma.
- Breaking the cycle of abuse is essential for future generations.
- Co-parenting with a narcissist requires strong boundaries.
- Addiction can complicate relationships and accountability.
- Finding strength in vulnerability can lead to healing.
- Trust issues often arise from past experiences of abuse.
- Honesty is vital in maintaining healthy relationships.
- Choosing oneself and prioritizing children is a powerful decision.
Chapters
00:00 Understanding Shame in Relationships
01:12 The Impact of Past Trauma
03:13 The Cycle of Shame and Manipulation
04:00 The Role of Support and Vulnerability
05:41 Breaking Free from Toxic Patterns
07:48 Finding Strength in Shared Experiences
12:58 Navigating Communication in Blended Families
15:19 Breaking the Cycle of Dysfunction
16:50 The Impact of Unhealthy Relationships on Children
19:08 Finding Unconditional Love in Pets
21:20 Trust Issues and the Aftermath of Betrayal
24:13 The Importance of Honesty in Relationships
27:19 Accountability and Addiction
30:11 Choosing Self and Children Over Toxicity
30:37 Navigating Support and Boundaries in Relationships
33:46 Understanding Addiction and Emotional Manipulation
35:48 The Turning Point: Realizations and Consequences
Narcissistic abuse leaves deep imprints on trust, relationships, and identity. Survivors often feel isolated, anxious, and hypervigilant. But healing is possible. By rebuilding self-trust, noticing patterns, and taking small, steady steps toward connection, survivors can slowly allow safe people back into their lives.
The scars remain, but they don’t define the future. Survivors are not broken, they are rebuilding.
We specialize in helping survivors untangle the patterns of narcissistic abuse and recover their sense of self. Learn more at www.narctrauma.com.
Follow for support and resources:
Facebook: Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Center
TikTok: @narctraumarecovery
Instagram (Podcast): @2queens

Two Queens and a Joker, My Narcissist Ex and Me
is sponsored by the Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Center, where we provide therapy, classes, and support groups for people healing from narcissistic abuse. Contact us at www.narctrauma.com.

Narcissistic abuse leaves deep imprints on trust, relationships, and identity. Survivors often feel isolated, anxious, and hypervigilant. But healing is possible. By rebuilding self-trust, noticing patterns, and taking small, steady steps toward connection, survivors can slowly allow safe people back into their lives.
The scars remain, but they don’t define the future. Survivors are not broken, they are rebuilding.
We specialize in helping survivors untangle the patterns of narcissistic abuse and recover their sense of self. Learn more at www.narctrauma.com.
Follow for support and resources:
Facebook: Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Center
TikTok: @narctraumarecovery
Instagram (Podcast): @2queensandajoker
Instagram (Recovery): @narcrecoverycenter