What happens when a man decides to stop performing and start feeling?

In this groundbreaking episode, Kathy sits down with James Burden, a trauma-informed coach and facilitator for men, to unlearn the dangerous conditioning that teaches men to disconnect from their feelings, dismiss their pain, and stay emotionally guarded.

✨ Key Highlights:

• 🧠 Crap to Unlearn: “Men don’t cry. Men don’t feel. Men don’t need help.”

• 👨‍👦 James’ personal journey from emotional suppression to powerful vulnerability

• 🚨 The societal crisis of emotionally unavailable men and generational shame

• 🧱 Signs you’re emotionally blocked (and how to begin releasing it)

• 👊 Myths around strength, masculinity, and what it means to “man up”

• ⚙️ Trauma responses like freeze, fawn, shutdown — and how they manifest in men

• 💥 The hidden grief under anger — and the liberation in facing it

• 🎁 James’s resources for men ready to feel, heal, and reclaim their wholeness

James Burden:

• “I thought being strong meant being silent. Turns out, it meant being disconnected.”

• “Every man I’ve ever worked with has been grieving something. They just didn’t have the words.”

• “Masculinity doesn’t need to be fixed — it needs to be felt.”

Kathy Baldwin:

• “We’re not raising boys. We’re raising future men. And the world doesn’t need more shutdown souls.”

• “If our boys don’t learn to feel, they’ll grow up thinking control is connection.”

• “The unlearning begins when we admit the pain was never ours to carry in the first place.”