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What happens when a simple outfit sends your nervous system into overdrive?

This week, I’m sharing a raw, unexpected story from my own life:

one that took me right back to the scars left by a controlling, toxic relationship… even though it’s been over a decade since anyone told me what I “wasn’t allowed” to wear.

Inside this episode:

• The hidden ways trauma lives in your body long after the relationship ends
• How old patterns can sneak back in when you least expect it
• The exact self-talk and movement technique I use (and teach my clients) to rewire my beliefs on the spot
• Why healing isn’t about “getting over it” — it’s about building the skills to handle triggers without losing yourself
• The hilarious but powerful reminder from my partner that showed me just how far I’ve come

If you’ve ever been told you’re “too much,” “too old,” “too big,” or “not allowed” ... this one’s for you.

Because the real work isn’t just wearing the outfit.

It’s reclaiming the part of you that knows you’re allowed to be exactly who you are.

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Takeaways
The scars in our nervous system can affect our self-image.
Past relationships can create lasting fears about self-expression.
Reclaiming control over how we present ourselves is crucial.
Positive self-talk can help change negative beliefs.
Movement can enhance the effectiveness of self-affirmations.
Social interactions can trigger old insecurities.
Healing from trauma is essential before entering new relationships.
Self-acceptance is key to attracting the right partners.
You are not defined by others' opinions of you.
Finding love requires knowing and loving yourself first.
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