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Toxic Parents: Why Their ‘Good Intentions’ Don’t Matter—Focus on Behavior Instead

You're Not Crazy: A Podcast for Cycle Breakers with Toxic Parents

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In today’s episode, I’m sharing one of the most important mindset shifts for healing from narcissistic parents or emotionally immature parents: stop asking if they’re a “good person” and start focusing on their repeated behaviors.

So many cycle breakers get stuck in the what ifs:

  • What if they don’t mean to hurt me?
  • What if they’re doing their best?
  • What if they had a hard childhood too?
But here’s the truth: your healing doesn’t depend on their intentions—it depends on their behavior. When your parent repeatedly dismisses, minimizes, or harms you despite you telling them it hurts, that’s the real issue.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • Why focusing on “good vs. bad” keeps you stuck in the cycle
  • How to identify harmful patterns of behavior in your parent
  • Practical ways to reclaim your power and protect your peace
This shift will help you get out of the weeds, stop wasting energy, and finally set boundaries that stick.

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Chapters

1. Podcast Introduction (00:00:00)

2. Personal Updates and Announcements (00:01:42)

3. Therapist Training and Private Feed (00:04:30)

4. Holiday Support in Membership (00:06:53)

5. Focus on Behavior, Not "Good Person" (00:07:50)

6. Getting Unstuck as a Cycle Breaker (00:12:00)

7. Closing and Resources (00:14:45)

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