Pure Sex Radio (PSR) seeks to help men, women, and families move from sexual brokenness to wholeness in Christ. Host, Jonathan Daugherty, has been working in sexual integrity ministry for over 20 years and brings his expertise and personal experience into each episode. Stephen Cervantes, aka Dr. Marriage, has over 30 years of counseling experience and provides daily thoughts for married men at DoctorMarriage.org. If you have questions, comments, or a suggestion for a topic, email us at psr@b ...
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What is Oneness and Why Does it Matter in Your Life?
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32:12PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving. Thank you for your support! ---------- In this episode, Stephen and I explore the profound concept of "oneness," touching on its dimensions of belonging, connection, unity, and intimacy. We discuss how oneness is essential in relationships with fam…
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Beyond Broken Vows: Rebuilding Marriage After Sexual Betrayal
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46:32In this episode, our guests are Johnny and Emily Spigelmire and they share their profound journey through Johnny's sex addiction and its impact on their marriage. Johnny opens up about his early exposure to pornography, his secret struggles, and the eventual escalation to extramarital affairs. Emily shares her perspective, detailing the confusion a…
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Navigating from Isolation to Intimacy (with Bret Marshall)
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35:36In this episode, I chat with Bret Marshall about his incredible journey of faith and personal transformation. Bret opens up about his struggles with emotional expression and sexual sin, and how these challenges impacted his relationships, especially with his wife, Tena. He shares the pivotal moments that led to his healing, including a transformati…
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The Deep-Rooted Marriage: Cultivating Intimacy, Healing, and Delight
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33:50In this episode, I am thrilled to welcome Dr. Steve Call, a clinical psychologist and co-author with Dr. Dan Allender of The Deep Rooted Marriage: Cultivating Intimacy, Healing, and Delight*. We dive into the book's themes, focusing on how past traumas influence present marital conflicts and how to grow in emotional understanding and intimacy. Dr. …
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Failing Forward: Turning Setbacks into Hopeful Growth Steps
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30:14In this episode, Dr. Stephen Cervantes and I dive into the emotional impact of failure. We both express how deeply we hate failing, describing how it triggers feelings of rejection, isolation, and shame. We explore the importance of reframing failure, emphasizing that God's love still remains constant despite our setbacks. His grace abounds! We sug…
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Are You a Loner or Connector in Your Relationships?
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31:34In this episode, we dive into the dynamics of "loners" and "connectors" in relationships. Everyone falls into one of these categories. As we explore this topic, my friend and co-host Stephen Cervantes discusses how loners tend to be independent and process internally, while connectors thrive on dialogue and emotional exchange. We examine how these …
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The Role of Boundaries in Marriage Restoration
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34:25In this episode, we invite back our friends and counselors, Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith, to talk about the crucial role of boundaries in restoring marriages after betrayal, particularly sexual infidelity. Matthew shares insights from the perspective of the betraying spouse, emphasizing self-reflection and accountability, while Joanna offers guidan…
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From Eating Disorder to Infidelity to Healing and Restoration
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33:53In this episode, I chat with author and blogger Sarah Matzke, who bravely shares her journey through struggles with body image, an eating disorder, and marital challenges, including infidelity. Sarah opens up about her upbringing, the pressures she faced, and the lies she believed about her worth. She recounts the painful yet transformative process…
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Porn and Sex Addiction Recovery as a Mental Health Issue
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35:32In this episode, I have back on the program Carl Thomas to dig into the recovery journey from pornography and sexual addiction. Carl shares his personal story and emphasizes the importance of community and addressing mental and emotional health. We discuss how recovery goes beyond just stopping harmful behaviors or behavioral sobriety and involves …
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Understanding the Impact of Parent's Infidelity on Adult Children
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34:14In this episode, I sit down with Melissa Macomber to explore the emotional and psychological impact of parental infidelity on adult children. Melissa shares her personal story of discovering her mother's affair at 13 and the ensuing family dynamics. Now, as a therapist, she highlights the lack of resources for adult children dealing with such betra…
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Understanding Painful Sex: Emotional Impacts and Pathways to Healing
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34:24Today we have back with us Dr. Jennifer Degler, a renowned specialist in sexual health, and we delve into the often-overlooked issue of painful sex. Dr. Degler brings her wealth of expertise to the table, shedding light on the prevalence and emotional impact of sexual pain, especially among women. We explore various conditions that explain certain …
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The Scandal of Virginia Grey: A Tale of the "Other Woman"
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32:31In today’s episode, we have Wendy Crane with us to talk about her new book, "The Scandal of Virginia Grey." Wendy opens up about her personal journey through infidelity, her 20-year marriage to Reese that didn’t start out like a fairytale, and the healing process that followed. She shares the emotional experience of writing her book, which allowed …
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Preparing Parents and Kids for Spring Break in a Digital World
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35:26In this episode, I chat with Norma Q-Brown, our Family Care director, about preparing parents for spring break, especially regarding their children's online behavior and conversations about sexuality. Norma provides practical strategies for parents to foster a safe environment for open dialogue, ensuring meaningful conversations about online safety…
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Helping Men Practice Self-Awareness to Build Stronger Relationships
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30:57In today’s episode, Dr. Stephen Cervantes and I explore the importance of self-awareness in relationships, especially for husbands. We discuss how men can enhance their relationships by recognizing their interaction patterns and understanding their own emotional state and that of their wife’s. Stephen emphasizes the value of men engaging with their…
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Helping Parents Respond in Truth and Love to their LGBTQ-Identifying Child
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36:45In today’s episode, our guest is author and speaker Melinda Patrick. She transparently shares about her journey as a mother navigating her daughter's revelation of same-sex attraction. Melinda opens up about her initial reaction, driven by a desire to "fix" her daughter, and how this response strained their relationship. She shares the struggles, s…
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The Key to Real and Lasting Freedom from Porn
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33:04In today’s episode, our guest is Noah Filipiak, a pastor, author, and podcaster who is passionate about applying the reality of the gospel to the real struggles and challenges of life, especially struggles with porn and sexual brokenness. Noah opens up about his personal struggles with pornography addiction, which began in his teenage years despite…
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Working Through Emotional Disconnection in Marriage
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30:41In this episode, Stephen Cervantes and I dive into the ongoing struggles of emotional disconnection in marriage, sparked by one man’s agonizing question: How does a man live a good life while feeling alone and disconnect in his marriage? We explore the pain of feeling isolated from a spouse and the importance of personal growth, faith, and communit…
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How Can Mothers Heal and Thrive After Betrayal Trauma?
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31:27In this episode, our guest is Casey Allison, an expert in supporting mothers through betrayal trauma. Casey, a mother of nine, shares her personal journey of navigating betrayal in her marriage and its impact on her family. She emphasizes the importance of healing for both mothers and their children, and the need for safety, support, and faith duri…
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Reflecting on 1000 Episodes: The Power of Grace, Community, and Personal Transformation
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31:26In this special 1000th episode, we take a heartfelt trip down memory lane, reflecting on our journey since the podcast got started way back in 2005. We share personal stories, discuss the evolution of the show, and emphasize the importance of grace and kindness in this challenging work. We celebrate you, the community we’ve built together, and enco…
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Best of 2024: Living More than a Love Story
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31:44Originally Aired on February 7, 2024 View this episode on YouTube ----- How important is trust to emotional health and building strong, mature relationships? It is vital! Yet, many men we have served in our ministry struggle terribly with trust. In today’s episode, Stephen and I are going to dig into this important topic of trust through the lens o…
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Best of 2024: Understanding God's Design for Sex in Today's Confused Culture
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41:22Originally Aired on May 1, 2024 View this episode on YouTube ----- HELP REACH THE YEAR-END GOAL TO IMPACT MORE LIVES! We have a goal of $118,000 to reach even more individuals and families in 2025 through this podcast and all our other ministries. To partner with us, give at Bebroken.org/donate or call 210-822-8201. ----- In this episode, we're han…
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Pornography, Same-Sex Attraction, and Gospel Transformation
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34:38In this episode, our guest is Stephen Thomas, who bravely shares his journey through struggles with pornography and same-sex attraction. Stephen opens up about his Christian upbringing, the shame he felt for his early porn use, and the pivotal role of community, faith, and vulnerability in his healing process. He recounts how early exposure to porn…
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From Betrayal to Bonding: Mark and Jill's Restoration Story
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35:502024 YEAR-END FINANCIAL NEED: $118,000 (We are currently at nearly 40% of the goal!) This ministry continues to reach men and women worldwide through the generous and faithful partnerships of listeners like you. Would you prayerfully consider partnering with us to meet our year-end financial need? To make your year-end gift or become a monthly part…
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Dealing with Divorce, Betrayal Trauma, and Hope
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36:08In this episode, I welcome Kim Hansen Petroni, an expert in betrayal trauma healing. We dive into the challenges many women face when dealing with emotionally lifeless marriages or divorce. Kim shares her personal journey and professional insights, emphasizing the importance of safety, grief, and reconnecting with God and self. We discuss the commo…
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Understanding Man's Inner Sexual Conflict
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25:352024 YEAR-END FINANCIAL NEED: $118,000 This ministry continues to reach men and women worldwide through the generous and faithful partnerships of listeners like you. Would you prayerfully consider partnering with us to meet our year-end financial need? To make your year-end gift or become a monthly partner, visit Bebroken.org/donate. Thank you! ---…
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Lord Be Near: Finding Hope in Suffering Through Prayer
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34:092024 YEAR-END FINANCIAL NEED: $118,000 This ministry continues to reach men and women worldwide through the generous and faithful partnerships of listeners like you. Would you prayerfully consider partnering with us to meet our year-end financial need? To make your year-end gift or become a monthly partner, visit Bebroken.org/donate. Thank you! ---…
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TRANSFORMED: How the Gospel Changed Linda Seiler's Mind & Heart
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37:19In this episode, I'm thrilled to welcome Dr. Linda Seiler, a remarkable advocate for addressing LGBTQ struggles through a Christian worldview. We dive into her personal journey, where she shares her experiences with gender identity confusion and her transformation after coming to faith in Christ. Dr. Seiler discusses her book, "Transformation: A Fo…
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Sadness and Hope: The Dynamic Duo of Personal Growth
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31:51In this episode, Dr. Stephen Cervantes and I dive into the complexities of personal growth, focusing on how childhood experiences shape adult behavior. We discuss insights from the "Gateway to Freedom" workshop, emphasizing the importance of recognizing our own choices while understanding the influences of our upbringing. I admire Stephen’s work on…
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Changed: The Amazing Transformation of a Former Lesbian Pastor
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39:35In this episode, we chat with the amazing Elizabeth Woning about her incredible journey of faith and sexuality. Elizabeth, once an openly lesbian woman who attended seminary, shares her experiences reconciling her sexuality with her faith in God. We delve into her transformative encounters with God, the challenges of navigating faith within the LGB…
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In this episode, I chat with Phil and Priscilla Fretwell about their incredible journey of healing and redemption from sexual brokenness in their marriage. They are the founders of Savage Marriage Ministries and help other couples overcome their past and fight for their future. In our conversation, Phil opens up about his long-term struggle with po…
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In this episode, I welcome Sam Jolman, a therapist, author, and father, to discuss his book, "The Sex Talk You Never Got: Reclaiming the Heart of Masculine Sexuality." Sam shares his journey into counseling, emphasizing the importance of meaningful conversations about sexuality. We explore the impact of shame and purity culture, and the distinction…
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Identifying and Meeting Needs in a Betrayed Wife
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34:37In this episode, I welcome back Lyschel Burket, an expert in helping women heal from betrayal trauma, especially in marriages affected by infidelity. Lyschel shares her personal journey and emphasizes the importance of community, safety, and communication in the healing process. We discuss the unique emotional challenges women face after betrayal a…
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How to Make Sex Pleasurable and Fun Again
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37:53In this episode, we invite back Dr. Jennifer Degler, a clinical psychologist and marriage expert, to talk about making sex pleasurable and fun again, especially for couples dealing with betrayal or brokenness. Dr. Degler shares her insights on the importance of pleasure within God's design for sex and offers practical steps for re-engaging with int…
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In this episode, I’m so excited to chat with Gigi Hopkins, our Wives Care Director, and Andrea Stunz, our Marketing Manager and Wives Care Aftercare Coordinator, about our new online resource, "40 Days of Healing for Wives." This course is crafted to support women dealing with the pain of betrayal in their marriages, especially sexual betrayal. We …
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Mr. Unemotional: Moving from Isolation to Connection
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31:29In this episode, we dive into the emotional struggles men face, especially those recovering from addiction. We explore the concept of "Mr. Unemotional," describing men who find it hard to express their feelings due to past experiences or societal pressures. Stephen Cervantes and I discuss the importance of emotional growth alongside behavioral reco…
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Her Freedom Journey (with Dr. Joy Skarka)
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32:48In this episode, I have back on the program our delightful friend and colleague Dr. Joy Skarka to talk about her new book, "Her Freedom Journey: A Guide Out of Porn and Shame to Authentic Intimacy," co-authored with Dr. Juli Slattery. Joy shares her personal journey and the mission of Authentic Intimacy, a ministry dedicated to helping individuals …
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In this episode, I chat with three amazing leaders from Prodigals International: Steve Dulaney, president of Prodigals, Sam Louie, a licensed mental health counselor, and Fausto Estrada, one of their group leaders. Steve shares how Prodigals International began as a faith-based support group for men struggling with sexual addiction and intimacy dis…
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In this episode, I chat with Mike Novotny, pastor, speaker, and author of "Taboo: Topics Christians Should Be Talking About But Don't." We dive into sensitive subjects like anxiety, depression, addiction, and especially sexuality within the Christian community. Mike shares his personal journey of overcoming pornography addiction and stresses the im…
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Helping Families Build a Healthy Relationship with Technology
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40:37In this episode, I welcome Sarah Siegand to the program, co-founder of Parents Who Fight and an expert in helping parents navigate technology's impact on children. We dive into the importance of modeling healthy tech habits, delaying access to devices, and educating parents about online safety. Sarah shares her personal journey, emphasizing the nee…
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How Group Work Will Transform Your Recovery Journey
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34:06In this episode, Joel Warneking shares his profound journey through addiction and recovery. Joel is the director of 423 Communities, a ministry that is radically committed to helping others overcome all forms of unhealthy sexuality, restoring healthy sexuality and intimacy with others through, confessional, recovery communities. Joel opens up about…
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Hope Rising Conference (with Brad Warren)
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34:15In this episode, our guest Brad Warren shares his incredible journey of overcoming a troubled past, including struggles with pornography and infidelity. Brad opens up about the profound impact these issues had on his marriage and how he and his wife, Kristen, found healing. We dive into the transformative power of the Hope Rising Conference, a virt…
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Exploring the Heart of Sexuality with Dr. Carol Tanksley
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34:38In this episode, I chat with Dr. Carol Tanksley, a ministry friend and author of the book Sexpectations: Reframing Your Good and Not-So-Good Stories About God, Love, and Relationships. We dive into the complexities of sexuality, intimacy, and how personal and cultural experiences shape these aspects of our lives. Dr. Tanksley shares her personal jo…
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Discover the Power of "Co" in Relationships and Recovery
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30:07My apologies for the poor audio quality of this episode. I hope it won’t distract too much from the content. In this episode, Stephen and I talk about the power of "co," meaning "together" or "jointly," in relationships and recovery. We dive into how collaboration and connection are essential for personal growth and healing, especially in marriage …
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The Need for Safety in Betrayal Trauma Healing
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39:23In this episode, I’m joined by Stacey Fitzgerald, who shares her profound journey through betrayal trauma and her path to healing. Stacey opens up about the resurfacing of her trauma in 2021, describing intense physical symptoms like panic attacks and a racing heart. She emphasizes the importance of feeling safe and regulating the nervous system. S…
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How Sharing Our Stories Can Lead to Healing Betrayal Trauma
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46:23In this heartfelt episode, I chat with Kate and Will Conwell about their journey through betrayal trauma and healing in their marriage. Kate shares her work with "Journey Beyond Betrayal," a ministry supporting women facing similar struggles. Will opens up about his past issues with sexual brokenness and infidelity, and how these impacted their rel…
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Unlocking Greatness: Why Emotional Connections Matter More than Success
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31:57In this episode, Dr. Stephen Cervantes and I dive into the theme of emotional growth and the importance of relationships among men. We start by sharing some personal stories about our dads and male role models, highlighting how men often prioritize being providers over nurturing emotional connections. A key highlight of this episode features a movi…
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Forgiveness and Grief in Betrayal Trauma Healing
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33:46In this episode, I welcome back Cat Etherington, the director of recovery at the Naked Truth Project. We explore the profound impact of betrayal trauma on wives and the journey towards healing and forgiveness. Cat explains the stages of healing: Safety and stabilization, Remembering and mourning, Reconnection She emphasizes the importance of forgiv…
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Navigating Identity & Sexuality: A Compassionate Approach for Parents
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36:47ONLY 1 WEEK LEFT TO DOUBLE YOUR GIFT! Thanks to a generous donor, we can offer a $75,000 match for gifts given between May 1 through July 31. Every dollar you give, collectively up to $75,000, will be DOUBLED! Give Today and double your impact. Thank you for your support! ---------- In this episode, I welcome back Pastor Marty Machowski to discuss …
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DOUBLE YOUR GIFT! Thanks to a generous donor, we can offer a $75,000 match for gifts given between May 1 through July 31. Every dollar you give, collectively up to $75,000, will be DOUBLED! Give Today and double your impact. Thank you for your support! ---------- In this episode, I welcome back Carol Juergensen Sheets, better known as Carol the Coa…
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SHE Virtual Summit: Where Women Find Support, Resources, and Hope
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32:16DOUBLE YOUR GIFT! Thanks to a generous donor, we can offer a $75,000 match for gifts given between May 1 through July 31. Every dollar you give, collectively up to $75,000, will be DOUBLED! Give Today and double your impact. Thank you for your support! ---------- In this episode, I chat with Crystal Renaud Day about the SHE Virtual Recovery Summit,…
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