The monotropic neurotype that is Autism + ADHD holds strengths and challenges. Typical advice often doesn't work for us. Your AuDHD host, Mattia Maurée (they/them), shares research, lived experience, and practical advice from coaching over 200 neurodivergent folks. They focus on feeling better first, before tackling the big life design questions. You're doing great, you belong here, and it's possible to feel a lot better. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Reflecting on the interview with Anna, who shared about accommodations for her students and herself. Learning how to build our own systems/structures is often more useful than being handed a system. Because no matter how much dopamine we get initially from a new tool or system, it inevitably becomes stale. Instead of throwing the whole thing out th…
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95 Kind Accommodations for Students & Teachers with Anna Shaver
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52:10Anna is an educator who has developed an incredible approach with accommodations at the core (for the student AND herself!). It makes sense pedagogically, and it's working! With a core of psychological safety, students are able to explore writing and language with their own goals in mind. We've also known each other since I was 15... so we talk a b…
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Coping mechanisms can be a pathologizing term. What's the difference between coping mechanisms and intensity or interests? This episode also touches back to the interview on sobriety with Amy in ep. 92. As well as this note on a positive AA experience from a listener. Resources: Transcript Doc Email Newsletter: Nothing Wrong With Us Like Your Brain…
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93 Tunnel of Focus: Monotropism, Trauma, and Thriving
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42:21Thanks Eric Tivers for interviewing me & allowing me to share the full episode here as well. His show notes: In this episode of ADHD reWired, Eric Tivers is joined by Mattia Maurée, an award-winning composer, poet, and host of the AuDHD Flourishing Podcast. Mattia shares their insights into the unique challenges faced by neurodivergent (ND) individ…
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92 Sobriety While AuDHD + Gifted with Amy Knott Parrish
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59:02Thank you to guest Amy Knott Parrish for sharing about her unusual journey with sobriety. When she realized what her future was going to look like, she... stopped drinking. Because it wasn't about the drinking, it was about the problem that the drinking was self-medicating. After nine years of continuous sobriety, her therapist insisted that she tr…
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91 Gifted + AuDHD: Surviving (part 2)
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1:04:20(Part 2 of 2. Part 1 here) Being AuDHD + gifted is being an outlier of outliers. I'd guess most of us feel like aliens. And even when we start to understand the shape of our experiences, it can feel overwhelming to even begin to order our understanding in a satisfying way. (Autoethnography, anyone?) Our depth and intensity needs can be quite challe…
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90 Gifted + AuDHD: Why It Matters (part 1)
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55:02Being AuDHD + gifted is being an outlier of outliers. I'd guess most of us feel like aliens. And even when we start to understand the shape of our experiences, it can feel overwhelming to even begin to order our understanding in a satisfying way. (Autoethnography, anyone?) Our depth and intensity needs can be quite challenging to meet, especially i…
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89 2E & ND-Affirming Education with Emily Kircher-Morris
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52:30Emily Kircher-Morris is the host of the long-running and popular podcast, The Neurodiversity Podcast. (And she interviewed me last year.) She's a compassionate, incisive, and important voice in 2e and neurodivergent-affirming education. Also a delight to talk to! Building on what we talked about, she shared some additional resource links below. Con…
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88 Gifted Development & Positive Disintegration with Chris Wells
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58:58Dr Chris Wells speaks & teaches about positive disintegration, Dabrowski's theory that (among other things) provides an alternate explanation for some mental illness. While the theory is not entirely about giftedness, it helps many gifted people make sense of their experiences. Dr Wells also talks about their journey, which included being on disabi…
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87 Giftedness & the Sparkly Mind with Sheldon Gay
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1:09:12Sheldon Gay shares about giftedness, in particular the intersections of being late-identified as a Black man. He hosts the I Must Be BUG'N podcast (Black, Underrepresented/Unidentified, Gifted and otherwise Neurodivergent). I absolutely love his term of having a sparkly mind! We weave through many topics, including education and melanated & margina…
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24:23 to skip specific American politics In this episode: Mutual aid Local connections Surveillance & privacy considerations for devices Resistance is working General strike & Mar 15 shutdown (#Shutdown315) Emotional survival: monotropic reset, alpha brain waves Being careful whom you listen to (accompanying Emily Science Journalism ep 82) Links me…
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Mini episode on my experience with intrusive thoughts and how/when they stopped being distressing. Monotropic brains tend toward thought loops and thus can make intrusive thoughts pretty easily. In my case, I think my brain was in part trying to generate interest when my needs were not being met. Dopamine is also a learning chemical that tells the …
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Last week I was interviewed on WHYY, Philly's PBS/NPR radio station, about the rising diagnosis rates of Autism & ADHD. Here are a few additional thoughts and my favorite moments, and you can find the full interview below Mentioned in episode: YouTube PBS interview (& Patreon post about it) WHYY.org page with the audio only version Public Patreon p…
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84 The Neurodivergent Playbook with Dr Matt Zakreski
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52:14Dr Matt Zakreski is 2e (ADHD & gifted) and also a clinical psychologist supporting neurodivergent folks. His recent book, The Neurodivergent Playbook, aims to meet that social gap in which we often feel we missed the "instruction manual" for how to approach people. Connect with Dr Matt: The Neurodiversity Collective for therapy & assessments Dr Mat…
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Bonus: Overview of my approach by Notebook LM
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17:46As I describe at the beginning, this goes along with episode 83 about AI & tech tools. The latter 15m of this episode was an AI "podcast conversation" based on AuDHD Flourishing principles and my overall work and approach. I was impressed by how it was pulled together, as well as pronouncing my name & getting pronouns right! Note: if you have misop…
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83 Tech and AI Tools for AuDHD Accommodations
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37:49It's okay to have strong feelings about AI! Yes, we touch on ethics in this episode. It's also okay to use accommodations and tools that work for you, especially in the short term to feel better first. This episode covers a number of AI and tech tools suggested by other AuDHDers. When there's a blog post to go through all of them (plus any others a…
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82 Science Journalism & Misinformation: Best Practices Being ND Online with Emily Earlenbaugh
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1:03:36Emily is a science writer, AuDHDer, and ND-affirming coach. They share online about neurodivergence topics and accuracy in science journalism as The Neurodivergent Well. In this episode, we talk about best practices as a consumer of science info online, especially via social media. If you don't have time or capacity to read journal articles, what C…
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This week I pushed my body way too far, even though I was having trouble parsing that in the moment. The story is also a great analogy for how other ND internal needs feel (including PDA). Even with all the info, self-kindness, and support, I still struggle to find that exact line of capacity. It's okay that it's hard to figure out! This is the per…
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Is this the year to give up on neurotypical and ableist nonsense that is causing you harm?? I hope so, for all of us. There are so many layers to unraveling internalized ableism. Here's your permission to do that a little more :) p.s. of course you know I never mean to give up on life ;) If you're in crisis, there are crisis links below <3 Links me…
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It's okay if your sleep and energy vary wildly during the seasons! Or at least... it's okay with me ;) Obviously there can be real world effects to having a chronotype outside of the 9-5. But if your body is going to make you rest anyway... may as well enjoy it and get the most out of it, in my opinion! Resources: Transcript Doc Email Newsletter Li…
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This is the follow-up episode to deepen ideas in the interview with Danielle Aubin last week on Autistic Therapy. Especially focused on this idea of relational trauma, and relational healing that addresses it. In my experience, relational healing ends up being woven throughout all other healing. Or, sometimes it's the "boss battle" to put what I've…
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77 Autistic Therapy with Danielle Aubin
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1:04:08Danielle Aubin is an autistic therapist who works with autistic clients. And also shares about Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder (OCPD) and how it's strangely compatible with capitalism because of its orientation toward achievement. Other big topic is community building, and how it can be healing even when it's uncomfortable (in the right w…
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A few ideas for accommodating your brain & needs around gift-giving and the holidays. Fun fact: Many of us have gone through a big minimalism stage! Please take care of yourself this season, whether that looks like unmasking or grey rocking ;) p.s. I have a public wish list and absolutely love practical gifts! It's a fun way to support the podcast …
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You deserve to survive this. Please stay. And if staying out of spite helps you, it has gotten me through some tough times. My Medium article, "Please Stay, We Need You" Crisis Resources: USA-based anonymous crisis chat International crisis lines Various types of crisis resources in about 10 countries Resources: Transcript Doc Email Newsletter Like…
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Have you absorbed the cultural idea that you "should" be able to be "present" without sensory aids? Fuuuuuuck that shiiiiit! Also been playing with sensory seeking (& its opposite) during moments of transition, and it's helping a LOT! Been considering the earplugs I mention, Loops? They're my fave currently. (Note: if you don't like anything in you…
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Thinking seasonally about gratitude in the context of..... everything happening right now. It's easy for my brain to want to solve every problem in the world. But I don't want to do the opposite of becoming entirely insular and only focusing on myself. I've found gratitude to be a way I can be more deeply interconnected (and in my case, add more re…
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AuDHDers often end up partly or fully self-employed. It can be due to desire, or out of necessity. Either way, this episode covers some tips to think about before starting. It may also be helpful if you've started businesses before and fallen for some bad advice (which I have). Mentioned in Episode: The interviews with Zann and Sam about their busi…
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Feeling worried about the future? Uncertainty can be especially difficult for Autistic nervous systems. Today I go into more detail about WHY & HOW safety in the body can be a foundational practice for healing and wellness. At the end, I share the audio of a practice that is also on YouTube here if you'd like to follow along with visuals. The quest…
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71 Maybe You're Not the Problem with Sam Cooper
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48:54Sam Cooper is an AuDHD coach and generally awesome human. When we met in person, we bonded over having worn the wrong size shoes for years, which led to the title of this episode. Sam shares about building a small business, and the upsides and downsides of a coaching business in particular. Sensory needs and discovering support tools. They also hav…
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70 An Easy Artist Business (after 10 years of failure soup) with Zann Hemphill
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59:39Zann's artist business is one of the easiest things she's ever done. And it's not even her main passion! Her deeply relatable history includes ten years of feeling like failure soup. It didn't feel like progress or learning, just failure. But it ultimately led her to figure out what does NOT work. She shares amazing ideas and practical advice.... t…
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If you struggle to figure out what to focus on with bigger goals, you're not alone! Here's one approach I've come up with for my own annual goals in particular. And some thoughts on decision making, since that's part of it. Wish List for bday (or whenever) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.…
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69 Bureaucratic Bullshit is the Bane of my Bexistence
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23:05I failed my first driving test! On a technicality! Ah, the frustrations of begging to exist in structures not built for us. Three quick stories about bureaucratic bullshit in a single week, and how it fits into my own big ball of yarn. It's okay that the stuff that's hard for us is probably never going to be fun or easy. We need support and RESOURC…
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The autistic / AuDHD self-discovery journey can feel like finding out that you've been hammering screws this whole time. You never learned how to use the right tools. You may not have been given the right tools at all! A few thoughts on the grief inherent in the process, and how to equip your personal toolbox now that you know what's up. Resources:…
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Weeks and months are staples of scheduling systems. But they tend not to work well for me as units of time. My personal ideal is two days on, two days off, though that's impractical. Instead, I talk about the various workarounds I've found, including intentionally scheduling rest (and how if I don't have time for that, I need to decrease demands). …
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This episode is about both why it's so hard to get help as an AuDHDer, and some of the broad steps I see working for us. It can help to have a view of your "big ball of yarn" i.e. complex and interrelated problems or life areas. It can also help to start addressing your sensory needs, core needs, and just live your life while you take a break from …
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What NOT to do in your AuDHD discovery process is just as important as knowing what to do! This episode interweaves nicely with last week's episode about what AuDHDers need. This is hardly an exhaustive list, but it covers many of the patterns I've seen and heard in the community. Links mentioned: InterGifted: What is Giftedness? Autistic Culture P…
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What do AuDHDers need (beyond the obvious needs all humans have)? And why do those needs matter? This episode covers some important ones: Being able to engage with our interests (in a particular way) Executive Function support, without trying to make the hardest things easy or enjoyable Autonomy True rest The narrow path of just enough stimulation …
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Almost all of us consider formal diagnosis in our AuDHD discovery journey. Whether it's ADHD-focused for medication, or Autism-focused for validation or accommodations. Knowing why you want the diagnosis goes a long way in figuring out what to pursue. The main options as I currently see them are: full formal neuropsych testing provisional diagnosis…
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Bonus drop from The Curiosity Cure podcast: Today's conversation with Mattia takes us through their journey with chronic pain, feeling better, and the ways they navigate their inner mindbody conversation as someone with AuDHD + PDA. We touch upon themes of neurodivergence, gender transition, resourcing inner + external safety. We chat about using h…
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I'm taking the last two weeks of August off, and will be back in September with a "back to the basics" series about things like diagnosis, what to do when you first discover your AuDHD identity, etc! In the meantime, you can check out... Like Your Brain community space Transcript Doc YouTube: The Longer Road, Mattia guesting on other pods Hosted on…
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There are many reasons we experience loneliness. There's a particular existential loneliness I experience when I feel like it's not possible for anyone to understand me. And much of that emerged from a lifetime of ableism. Being in AuDHD community has been incredibly healing. Thank you for being here! Also... as of today we're over 200,000 download…
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Working memory may be a main reason we feel so exhausted... we're doing so many things manually that are habits for non-AuDHD brains. Using a working memory file as we go can help a lot and massively reduce overwhelm and cognitive fatigue. Cal Newport uses a digital file for this during computer work. I've been using post-it notes so I can carry th…
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Today I had several moments of autistic joy (sometimes called "glimmers") that were also great examples of mindfulness. But mindfulness in a way that works for my sensory experience! Reminder that our brains are also quite capable of delight in little things. Resources: Like Your Brain community space Transcript Doc Email Newsletter Hosted on Acast…
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Quitting can feel amazing, especially when it's a clear self-protection move. And when we haven't waited until it becomes so terrible we have to get out. But the decision-making process can feel slow! This episode covers three ways I've decided to quit things: Big emotions / the thing got really bad Math-y pros and cons approach (slow but effective…
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I recently took the laziest vacation I ever have, and it was a revelation. Also, there are usually so many external factors we're not considering while laying on the couch feeling too "lazy" to do something! There are layers. Resources: Like Your Brain community space Transcript Doc Email Newsletter Love Your Brain course Hosted on Acast. See acast…
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Men are not the enemy... Some thoughts on identity, community, and responsibility. Big shout-out to Devon Price's new book, Unlearning Shame: How We Can Reject Self-Blame Culture and Reclaim Our Power Resources: Like Your Brain community space Transcript Doc Email Newsletter Love Your Brain course Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more inf…
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"felt vulnerable, may delete later" Quick story/update and to validate that communication is so hard... and so are transitions! Full audio direct link for Patreon folks Transcript doc Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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AuDHD brains face many challenges when it comes to projects. It's something I've put a great deal of time and learning into, both personally and professionally. This episode covers many ideas and approaches that tend to work for us. Key Takeaways: We usually learn to use what I call the Adrenaline-Anxiety Approach. While effective short-term, it ca…
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56 All Problems Are Middle School Problems with Pawel Kowalczyk
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1:06:35Pawel, a former middle school teacher in an alternative school, lays out how most of our adult problems were ones we first encountered in middle school. From social groups to complex problem solving, they show up again and again in life. He also talks about how being a high-masking AuDHDer showed up in life. Books mentioned: The Anxious Generation*…
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Achievements often feel tied into personal identity. AuDHD folks in particular struggle with achievement pressures, even with just regular neurodivergent demand avoidance. A few core topics: The joy of supporting others' work and stepping back from being the primary creator Achievements often don't provide the emotions we expect, so it's meaningful…
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