Learn more about Michael Wenderoth, Executive Coach: www.changwenderoth.com

As a leader or manager, do you feel burned out having to give direction and provide all the answers – amid increasing complexity, ambiguity and unpredictability? In this episode of 97% Effective, host Michael Wenderoth speaks with Dr. Inbal Demri-Shaham, who wants to help you go from transactional to transformative in your relationships, and the way you lead others. We discuss her new course at Stanford “Coaching Skills for Effective Leadership,” and her EFECT framework – showing the coaching mindset and the practical coaching skills that will make you and your team more effective at getting things done – and more engaged. Coaching is not a solution to everything, but you’ll leave this episode super curious about the power and impact coaching can have on your 1-1 conversations next week – and exceeding your goals this year.

SHOW NOTES:

• Why coaching skills are essential for leaders today
• Trust and the practice of “relational leadership”
• Who changes the most from coaching? The surprising insight reported by course participants
• What is Coaching? The goal and the 3 main processes of Coaching
• “Coaching is not just about making people feel good… It is about getting to the crunchy stuff that people often prefer to avoid”
• Correcting misconceptions: The course is not about training coaches!
• The 2 areas many Silicon Valley leaders over-rely on
• When showing up as the alpha is not the most effective way to go
• Speaking and Listening: A practical exercise to assess if you are coaching
• The importance of a “dual growth mindset”– that you can change yourself, but you can also change your environment - when coaching others
• How important is it that your corporate culture supports a coaching approach?
• Inbal the “gentle rebel”: On creating opportunities for success, amid constraints (pushing back vs holding off)
• Viktor Frankl and the power of seeing through limitations
• EFECT: the infrastructure of a successful coaching conversation
• Engage: Coaching always begins with building a “good” relationship and setting agreements
• “When we know boundaries we feel safer”
• Frame: How we frame an issue so it is conducive – and not limiting – to thinking about potential solutions
• Explore: Expanding courses of actions and thinking through the consequences
• Commit: Choosing a course of action and the plan to implement it
• Test: The “Hypothesis testing” stage, because you can’t know unless you actually do
• What leaders find most challenging about employing a coaching mindset
• Working through the initial clunkyness of your first Coaching conversations
• “The why has to do with them, not with you.”
• Coaching is not a “one and done,” single conversation – it becomes part of an ongoing relationship, used when it’s most helpful
• Coaching is not a Swiss army knife that solves everything: Yes, sometimes you need to tell them what to do!
• Do things take longer when you use a coaching approach?
• How coaching can drive increased employee engagement and reduce turnover

BIO AND LINKS:

Dr. Inbal Demri-Shaham is the Principal and Founder of Q Factor Consulting - a Silicon Valley-based organizational consultancy that works with pioneering founders, C-level corporate executives, and top academics from around the world to solve their most pressing business needs and position them as leaders for the long term. She is also an instructor, facilitator, and executive coach at the Stanford University Graduate School of Business and School of Medicine. By deploying a rare hybrid of scholarly and industry expertise, Dr. Demri brings rigorous structure and complex ideas to life inside the classroom and the boardroom for the leaders she empowers, the academics she partners with, and the students she inspires.

• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/inbal-demri-shaham-phd-7a91563/
• Her email: idemri [at] email.fielding.edu
• Website: https://inbaldemri.com/about/
• Coaching Skills for Effective Leadership Course Intro: https://tinyurl.com/vs53vuue
• Stanford Course “Coaching Skills for Effective Leadership”: https://www.gsb.stanford.edu/exec-ed/programs/coaching-skills-effective-leadership
• Course Video Intro: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eXCVblbZixQ
• The Unexpected take-away from the Course (by Jason Braun): https://tinyurl.com/y9uf7m5t
• Dual Growth Mindset (Berg et al): https://tinyurl.com/4639ysep
• Job Crafting: What is it and Why Does it Matter (Berg): https://tinyurl.com/2uw58s4e
• How Constraints move us forward and spark creative solutions (Wenderoth): https://tinyurl.com/ywap8fzm
• Man’s Search for Meaning (Viktor Frankl): https://a.co/d/hPSMyxR
• Michael’s Award-Winning book, Get Promoted: What Your Really Missing at Work That’s Holding You Back https://tinyurl.com/453txk74