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Are you avoiding talking to your kids about topics that are just...awkward? In this episode, I chat with Dr. Elsa Friis, clinical psychologist and VP of Product at Alongside, to unpack a practical way to tackle taboo topics (sex, porn, consent, screens) without burning the bridge you’re trying to build.
Dr. Friis takes us from a group home with twelve boys to community-led parenting programs in Kenya, showing how cultural humility changes results. Warmth, respect, and safety are universal, but a mismatch in how love is shown fuels conflict. We dig into concrete tools: visual schedules that calm bedtime battles, shared calendars that grow autonomy, and “ice cream chats” that make awkward feel doable. We outline scripts for starting the sex conversation early, framing online exposure without shame, and setting boundaries that still invite honesty.
We also explore how technology can extend, not replace, human care. Alongside for Families uses an AI wellness coach to help parents and youth practice tough conversations, build study plans, and share the right info at the right time. Teens get a private space with clear safety rails; parents receive high-level summaries and immediate alerts for risks like self-harm.
Resources:
- Dr. Friis is giving Little Helpers a free 30 days to Alongside with the discount code FRIEND30! Try it here: https://www.alongside.care/family
- If you're navigating someone's mental health or emotional issues, join KulaMind, our community and support platform. In KulaMind, we'll help you set healthy boundaries, advocate for yourself, and support your loved one.
- Follow @kulamind on Instagram for podcast updates and science-backed insights on staying sane while loving someone emotionally explosive.
- For more info about this podcast, check out: www.alittlehelpforourfriends.com
Chapters
1. Welcome, Mission, And Free Coaching CTA (00:00:00)
2. Meet Dr. Elsa Friese And Her Work (00:00:39)
3. Group Home Lessons And Family Support (00:02:06)
4. Building Parenting Programs In Kenya (00:04:10)
5. Cultural Norms, Warmth, And Mismatch (00:06:26)
6. Structure Over Reactivity At Home (00:09:05)
7. Routines, Visual Schedules, And Autonomy (00:11:15)
8. Preteens, Porn Exposure, And Openness (00:13:22)
9. Starting The Awkward Sex Conversation (00:16:10)
10. Inside Alongside For Families (00:18:05)
11. What Kids Want Adults To Know (00:20:05)
12. Navigating Values, Laws, And Safety (00:22:05)
13. Alerts, Gray Areas, And Safeguards (00:25:05)
14. Ownership, Roleplays, And Tough Calls (00:27:05)
15. Hopes For Tech That Builds Communication (00:29:00)
16. Real-World Impact And Reporting Harm (00:31:15)
17. Where To Find Alongside And Promo (00:33:20)
18. Closing Thanks And Listener CTA (00:34:36)
19. Disclaimer And Limitations (00:35:15)
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