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In ACA we say that shame is the legacy of adult children and it is passed down from generation to generation. That’s why we feel shame for things that “normal” people don’t. This week’s episode 278 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about breaking free from generational shame and humiliation!
In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing how, despite the saying that guilt is, ‘I did something wrong’ and shame is ‘I am something wrong,’ for me, it was more frequently that I was supposed to know something that I don’t or I’m supposed to be or do something that I’m not. And that is because of the messages I received from the people around me growing up.
Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:

  • Examples of the messages I received from my family that led to this deeply ingrained sense of shame I felt most of my adult life.
  • Things that have made me feel shame and humiliation over the years that other people likely wouldn’t.
  • How setting healthy boundaries helped me know myself better and overcome the shame and humiliation I once felt.

Remember, it is fine to seek the approval of others but only when you have your own approval first.
Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.

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LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

Ep. 17. GUILT AND SHAME

Ep. 179. Freedom from the Lie of Shame - You're Not Inherently Flawed

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Chapters

1. Breaking Free from Generational Shame and Humiliation (00:00:00)

2. Barb reflects on her family dynamics, questioning her intelligence and the personal growth she has had from childhood until now. (00:05:18)

3. Recovery helped her overcome feelings of shame and use terms of endearment more naturally in her relationships. (00:09:52)

4. Barb recounts moments from her life where she experienced an abnormal amount of shame. (00:15:44)

5. The importance of having your own approval before seeking others' approval, and doing things that make you feel good about yourself. (00:20:13)

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