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Have you ever been told you’re “too much”? This episode unpacks the tension of shrinking your brilliance and offers a new path: one where your growth becomes a gift — not something to hide.
You’ve been told you’re “too much.”
Too intense. Too fast. Too driven.
So you started shrinking — not because you lost your edge, but because it felt safer to soften your presence than risk being misunderstood.
In this episode of Identity-Level Recalibration, we name that quiet ache — and give you language, insight, and next steps to stop apologizing for who you are.
You’ll learn:
- Why “too much” is often a reflection of others’ discomfort, not your design
- How shrinking creates hidden identity fatigue — and what to do instead
- The cost of ungrounded expansion through the story of Howard Hughes
- Three simple steps to start reclaiming your brilliance today
- How to move from managing perception to modeling possibility
Julie Holly shares a personal story of being asked to “tone it down” as a teacher — and how standing in her full capacity (without shame or ego) became a turning point.
You’ll leave this episode with deeper clarity and a powerful Micro-Recalibration to guide your next small shift.
Today’s Micro-Recalibration:
Ask yourself:
– Where have I been shrinking to stay digestible?
– Where do I sense it’s time to let my full presence be seen — not explained?
– What would leadership look like if I didn’t manage optics, but modeled opportunity?
If you lead a team, a classroom, or a company: affirm the people who’ve been called “too much.” They’re not the problem. They’re the next wave of possibility.
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