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Breaking The Success Ceiling
Manage episode 469332005 series 2621861
Episode Overview
In this episode, I explore why so many female founders experience "success ceilings" - those moments when business finally gains momentum, money flows in, goals are hit... and then something happens to pull us back down. Whether it's sudden emergencies, procrastination on new opportunities, or discounting services, these patterns aren't random. They represent unconscious self-sabotage that happens when money starts to flow.
Key Highlights
Understanding Success Ceilings
- Success ceilings manifest as unexpected obstacles just as business gains momentum
- Common signs include anxiety around increased sales, sudden "emergencies" requiring spending, procrastination on opportunities, discounting services, and boundary issues
- The brain is trying to protect us by returning to what feels familiar and safe
The Cautionary Tale of Nasty Girl
- Founder Sophia Amoruso grew from an eBay store to $100 million in revenue
- Appeared on Forbes' list of richest self-made women with net worth of $280 million
- Released bestselling autobiography "Girlboss" and Netflix series
- Filed for bankruptcy in 2016 and was acquired for just $20 million in 2017
- Illustrates both the excitement of rapid success and challenges of sustainable scaling
The Psychology Behind Self-Sabotage
- We all have a financial identity - a concept of how much money we "should" have
- When we exceed our unconscious money set point, we experience identity disruption
- Ancestral programming can trigger safety warnings when we achieve unusual success
- Trauma changes how genes express themselves, and these changes can be inherited
- Our nervous system responds to unfamiliarity by shifting into fight, flight, freeze, or fawn
- Fear of others' expectations creates resistance to expanded success
Breaking Through Success Ceilings
Nervous System Regulation:
- Practice deep breathing: inhale for 4, hold, exhale for 6
- Place one hand on heart, one on stomach while affirming "It is safe for me to receive"
- Regular practice helps rewire physical responses to success
Create Success Containers:
- Open a separate bank account for new income levels
- Practice writing larger invoices and sending them to yourself
- Rehearse conversations about higher rates
- Visualize having a financial team supporting your expanded business
Identity Work:
- Ask: "Who do I need to become to hold this level of success?"
- Create identity statements that align with your expanded financial reality
- Find accountability partners who expect this level of success from you
- Establish celebration rituals for financial milestones
- Set clear boundaries around time and energy
Inspirational Examples:
- Sarah Blakely maintained 100% ownership of Spanx when investors came knocking
- Her quote: "Success to me is internal, not external"
- Built a billion-dollar company by focusing beyond just numbers
Final Thought
Success limits aren't character flaws—they're protective mechanisms that once served us but no longer do. With awareness and practice, we can break through to new levels of sustained success where it feels safe to thrive.
Chapters
00:00 Introduction to Success Ceilings
02:50 Understanding Success Ceilings
06:04 The Story of Sophia Amoruso
08:55 Psychology Behind Self-Sabotage
11:55 Ancestral Programming and Financial Identity
14:53 Nervous System Responses to Success
18:08 Breaking the Cycle of Self-Sabotage
20:58 Practical Steps to Embrace Success
23:47 Visualizing and Embodying Success
27:03 Creating New Financial Containers
29:49 Conclusion and Next Steps
Resources:
Get my FREE book 'It's Not About The Money'
Take the Money StoryTypes® Quiz
Sign up to my FREE Newsletter
335 episodes
Manage episode 469332005 series 2621861
Episode Overview
In this episode, I explore why so many female founders experience "success ceilings" - those moments when business finally gains momentum, money flows in, goals are hit... and then something happens to pull us back down. Whether it's sudden emergencies, procrastination on new opportunities, or discounting services, these patterns aren't random. They represent unconscious self-sabotage that happens when money starts to flow.
Key Highlights
Understanding Success Ceilings
- Success ceilings manifest as unexpected obstacles just as business gains momentum
- Common signs include anxiety around increased sales, sudden "emergencies" requiring spending, procrastination on opportunities, discounting services, and boundary issues
- The brain is trying to protect us by returning to what feels familiar and safe
The Cautionary Tale of Nasty Girl
- Founder Sophia Amoruso grew from an eBay store to $100 million in revenue
- Appeared on Forbes' list of richest self-made women with net worth of $280 million
- Released bestselling autobiography "Girlboss" and Netflix series
- Filed for bankruptcy in 2016 and was acquired for just $20 million in 2017
- Illustrates both the excitement of rapid success and challenges of sustainable scaling
The Psychology Behind Self-Sabotage
- We all have a financial identity - a concept of how much money we "should" have
- When we exceed our unconscious money set point, we experience identity disruption
- Ancestral programming can trigger safety warnings when we achieve unusual success
- Trauma changes how genes express themselves, and these changes can be inherited
- Our nervous system responds to unfamiliarity by shifting into fight, flight, freeze, or fawn
- Fear of others' expectations creates resistance to expanded success
Breaking Through Success Ceilings
Nervous System Regulation:
- Practice deep breathing: inhale for 4, hold, exhale for 6
- Place one hand on heart, one on stomach while affirming "It is safe for me to receive"
- Regular practice helps rewire physical responses to success
Create Success Containers:
- Open a separate bank account for new income levels
- Practice writing larger invoices and sending them to yourself
- Rehearse conversations about higher rates
- Visualize having a financial team supporting your expanded business
Identity Work:
- Ask: "Who do I need to become to hold this level of success?"
- Create identity statements that align with your expanded financial reality
- Find accountability partners who expect this level of success from you
- Establish celebration rituals for financial milestones
- Set clear boundaries around time and energy
Inspirational Examples:
- Sarah Blakely maintained 100% ownership of Spanx when investors came knocking
- Her quote: "Success to me is internal, not external"
- Built a billion-dollar company by focusing beyond just numbers
Final Thought
Success limits aren't character flaws—they're protective mechanisms that once served us but no longer do. With awareness and practice, we can break through to new levels of sustained success where it feels safe to thrive.
Chapters
00:00 Introduction to Success Ceilings
02:50 Understanding Success Ceilings
06:04 The Story of Sophia Amoruso
08:55 Psychology Behind Self-Sabotage
11:55 Ancestral Programming and Financial Identity
14:53 Nervous System Responses to Success
18:08 Breaking the Cycle of Self-Sabotage
20:58 Practical Steps to Embrace Success
23:47 Visualizing and Embodying Success
27:03 Creating New Financial Containers
29:49 Conclusion and Next Steps
Resources:
Get my FREE book 'It's Not About The Money'
Take the Money StoryTypes® Quiz
Sign up to my FREE Newsletter
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