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What if a single, gentle question could turn tense moments into real connection? That’s the promise of “contracting,” a simple consent-based habit that replaces surprise talks with intentional, focused conversations. We walk through how this tiny shift—asking “Is now a good time?” and agreeing on a short window—respects attention, reduces defensiveness, and builds trust that sticks.
• what contracting is and why it works
• how consent checks prevent ambush talks
• sample scripts for respectful timing
• prepping topics with short previews
• external vs internal processing styles
• three reasons contracting builds safety
• the sprinkler story and timing misfires
• honoring reschedules and follow-through
• presence rules: phones down, eyes up
• weekly challenge to try contracting
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Chapters

1. Welcome + Book Review Request (00:00:00)

2. What Contracting Is (00:01:13)

3. Contracting in Coaching vs Marriage (00:02:26)

4. How to Ask and Prep Topics (00:03:29)

5. Monica’s Marriage Shift (00:05:16)

6. Why Contracting Works: Three Reasons (00:06:25)

7. External vs Internal Processing (00:07:21)

8. The Sprinkler Story + Follow-Through (00:09:10)

9. Be Present + Weekly Challenge (00:11:07)

10. Closing + Listener Outreach (00:12:18)

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