When life throws you a curveball, which of these sounds most like your reaction?”

A) “Typical — it’s always me that this happens to!”
B) “Right, that’s annoying — but I’ll sort it out.”
C) “I knew it — I can’t catch a break.”
D) “Maybe there’s a reason this happened — what can I learn from it?”

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Most of us start in A or C — and we don’t even realise we’ve slipped into what I call the victim mindset.
That’s when life feels like it’s happening to you instead of for you.
The car breaks down, the job’s a pain, the boss doesn’t listen — and suddenly you’re thinking, ‘Why does this always happen to me?’

Here’s the truth — that thought alone keeps you stuck.
When you think you’ve no control, your brain stops looking for solutions.
But when you flip it — and say, ‘What’s this teaching me?’ — your brain wakes up again.
And that’s when you move from being the passenger to being the driver of your own life.”

3-Step Solution – How to Get Out of the Victim Seat

1️⃣ Notice it.
Catch yourself when you’re saying “always” or “never.”
Those words are a sure sign you’re giving away your power.
Example: “It’s always me that gets the bad shifts.” — Just notice that thought.

2️⃣ Name it.
Say to yourself, “Hold on — that’s my victim voice talking.”
When you name it, you separate from it.
You remind yourself — I have a choice.

3️⃣ Reframe it.
Ask, “If this was happening for me, not to me — what might it be showing me?”
Maybe it’s a lesson in boundaries, patience, or direction.
Either way — you’ve just taken your power back.