Send us a text

Struggling with low libido? Feeling disconnected from your partner? You're not alone. In this episode of Not Your Therapist Podcast, licensed sex therapist Shie Benisti, LCSW, CST, joins us to break down the real reasons why sexual desire fluctuates—and what you can do to bring intimacy back.

We dive into the mental, emotional, and relational blocks that impact desire, including the role of stress, hormonal changes, and the mental load that disproportionately affects women. Shie also shares practical, no-BS strategies to shift from frazzled to fulfilled in your sex life.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

✅ Why libido isn’t static—and what naturally impacts desire over time
✅ How the mental load (work, kids, responsibilities) kills intimacy
✅ The surprising reason why “performance anxiety” makes things worse
✅ The connection between past trauma and sexual desire
✅ How to navigate mismatched libidos in a relationship
✅ Simple, science-backed ways to reignite intimacy

If you’ve ever wondered, “Why don’t I want sex anymore?” or “How do I get the spark back?”—this episode is for you.

👉 Grab your FREE Audio Training: Get Unstuck- 3 Strategies to Break Free from Unhealthy Patterns

👉 Follow me on social @notyourtherapist.kayla

👉 Ask me a question [email protected]