NTM 507: From Sexless to Sensual: Why Your Mental Load Kills Your Desire

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If you feel like your sex drive has vanished, it’s not because something is wrong with you. It’s because your mind is overloaded, your body is exhausted, and your desire has been buried under an avalanche of to-do lists, responsibilities, and emotional labour.
In this episode, we unpack the real reasons why so many women feel disconnected from their sensuality and why stress, overwhelm, and mental clutter shut down turn-on. We’ll explore the nervous system’s role in desire, why waiting for the “perfect moment” never works, and simple shifts that make pleasure possible again—even in the middle of a chaotic life.
If intimacy feels like just another chore, this episode is for you.
In this episode, we discuss:
- “I just don’t feel sexual anymore” – Why That’s Not the Whole Truth
- Why “low libido” is rarely about sex—it’s about stress, exhaustion, and disconnection.
- How the mental load of caregiving, work, and life drains desire.
- The guilt of should—feeling like you’re supposed to want sex but just don’t.
- A personal story of a woman who thought she had low libido—until she lightened her mental load.
- The Science: How an Overloaded Nervous System Blocks Turn-On
- Your body prioritises survival over pleasure—if you’re always in stress mode, arousal is impossible.
- The fight-or-flight vs. rest-and-receive response—and why women get stuck in “go mode.”
- Why tracking the next task, next meltdown, next deadline leaves no space for intimacy.
- The myth of “Once life calms down, I’ll feel more in the mood.”
- How avoidance fuels low desire—less sex = less intimacy = more disconnection.
- Why waiting for the perfect moment is like waiting for laundry to fold itself.
- A real-life example of a couple who broke the sexless cycle by focusing on micro-moments of connection.
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