Ever left a meeting feeling like you just wasted an hour of your life? Tired of conversations that go in circles, ideas that get shot down, and agendas that get completely derailed? What if you—even as a participant—had the power to fix it? In this episode, hosts David Morelli and William Oakley tackle one of the most common workplace frustrations: dysfunctional meetings. They break down why teams so often fall into patterns of conflict, inaction, or aimless discussion. The core of their solution is the RESPECT model, a framework outlining seven essential communication styles required for a healthy, well-rounded conversation:
Key Topics:
· Questions Are Contributions: You don't need a "smart statement" to add value. A strategic question is often a more powerful and less risky way to influence the direction of a meeting, especially if you aren't in a formal leadership role.
· Dysfunction Is a Missing Perspective: Meetings become dysfunctional when key communication styles are absent. A team that only focuses on action but ignores risks or human impact will ultimately fail.
· Your Job Is to Fill the Gap: If you notice a perspective is missing, it becomes your responsibility to introduce it. By asking a question related to that missing style, you help balance the conversation and guide the team toward a more holistic solution.
· Avoid Getting Pigeonholed: Team members often fall into predictable roles (the critic, the cheerleader, the silent observer). Intentionally using different styles of questions allows you to be a more dynamic and effective contributor.
· Leaders Should Speak Last: If you are leading a meeting and want genuine discussion, present the problem and then ask for others' perspectives before offering your own. This prevents you from inadvertently shutting down conversation.