“Why me?” “Why now?” We’ve all had seasons where those questions take over. The conversations play on repeat. The decisions get rehashed. And somehow, we convince ourselves that if we could just figure out why, we’d finally feel peace.

But here’s what Dr. Phyllis gently reminds us:

You don’t have to know why to move forward.

You just have to trust that forward is still possible.

That shift—from why to what now—changes everything. It’s the difference between staying stuck and starting again. Between spiraling in the past and stepping into your next chapter.

Dr. Phyllis shares a simple but powerful mindset framework for moving forward:

W – Witness what you’re feeling.

H – Hold space, not hostage.

A – Ask a better question.

T – Take that step.

So think of one area where you’ve been circling—maybe a relationship, a job, a decision you can’t stop replaying.

Instead of asking, Why did I stay so long?

Try asking, What do I need now?

What kind of life do I want to build moving forward?

There’s no perfect roadmap. But there is always a next step. And you don’t have to have all the answers to take it. Trade your why for a what now—and leave the rest in God’s hands.

Quotes from Today’s Episode:

“We have to change the question from why to what now and leave the rest in God’s hands”

“We have to trust the process, Sis”

00:00 "The Pursuit of Why"

04:39 "Trust the Process to Move Forward"

08:47 "Forward-Facing Self-Reflection"

13:20 "Reflect and Move Forward"

14:47 "Embrace Authenticity and Aligned Action"

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