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#83- How Are You Really Doing? A Small Question with Growth Power
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How Are You Really Doing? It’s a small question. One we often toss into conversation without pausing to hear the answer.
But when asked with intention, How are you really doing? becomes a powerful invitation to pause, reflect, and move toward deeper emotional honesty.
Dr. Phyllis has spent years making this question part of her regular rhythm—with friends, family, clients, and even herself. Not just as a social nicety, but as a sincere check-in. Because too often, we answer with “I’m fine” when our lives feel anything but. There’s pressure to hold it all together. To keep moving. To not fall apart. And sometimes, it feels safer to stay silent than to say what’s really going on beneath the surface.
But silence isn’t always strength. And emotional avoidance doesn’t create peace—it only postpones it.
That’s why Dr. Phyllis encourages a simple, intentional practice: the REAL Check-In. It’s a tool designed to create space for honesty, healing, and clarity.
R: Recognize your feelings—without judgment.
E: Express those emotions in a safe space.
A: Ask for divine guidance.
L: Let those emotions lead you to your next step.
This isn’t about fixing everything. It’s about living with honesty.
Because when we stop to ask how we’re really doing—and we’re brave enough to answer—growth begins.
Quotes from Today’s Episode:
"Emotional honesty is not a breakdown, it's a breakthrough."
00:00 "Truly Listening to 'How Are You?'"
06:31 "Feeling Seen and Heard"
08:55 "Invisible Among Achievements"
12:25 "Real Check-In Framework"
16:43 Self-Care: Renew and Refresh
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