AI is officially in the room. In this roundtable, I sit down with our Relationship Experts team to unpack how tools like ChatGPT are showing up inside real relationships. We explore Dr. Shirley Glass's "walls and windows" model and ask a crucial question: Is AI helping you open the window between you and your partner, or is it becoming a new window that pulls you farther apart? You will hear clinical stories, practical guidelines, and a simple litmus test to make sure AI supports connection instead of replacing it.

• Why AI feels so validating and why that can be risky for couples

• "Walls and windows" explained for the AI era

• Two roles AI often plays in relationships

  • Replacement companion that siphons emotional energy away from your partner

  • "Judge of facts" that fuels suspicion and confirmation bias

• A healthy use case that actually deepens connection

• Four therapist-approved guidelines to use AI wisely without eroding trust

• 00:00 Welcome, and why we are talking about AI now

• 02:18 Program note and invitation for a free 45-minute consultation

• 03:55 Walls and windows model applied to AI

• 06:55 When AI becomes a "perfect listener" and the partner gets sidelined

• 17:20 AI as the "decider of truth" and how that inflames anxiety

• 19:52 A pro-connection use case: AI helps find your own words of appreciation

• 22:35 Key distinction: AI as a tool to foster connection, not replace it

• 24:32 The "easy dopamine" problem and the investment mindset

• 31:34 Why AI cannot deliver the art of therapy or real human presence

• 44:40 It is not about quick answers, it is about the therapeutic process

• 51:55 Is turning to AI a form of micro-betrayal

• 56:18 Quick self-check questions to keep the window between you open

• 58:04 Final guidelines and takeaways

• Sharing equals connecting. When sharing shifts from your partner to AI, disconnection grows over time.

• AI can validate feelings quickly, but overuse can replace the effort that builds intimacy.

• Be cautious when you ask AI to "decide facts" about your partner. Limited inputs plus anxious questions often return fear-confirming answers.

• A healthy use of AI is as a tool that helps you find your own words so you can show up better with your partner.

• Think like an investor. Put time and vulnerability into the relationship that gives real returns.

• Not "Just Friends" by Dr. Shirley P. Glass — the "walls and windows" model that helps couples protect the boundary around their relationship.

• Concepts discussed: confirmation bias, emotional investment, human presence in therapy.

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This podcast is educational and is not therapy. It does not substitute for professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment.