In this episode of Resilience Unravelled, Dr Russell Thackeray meets Dr. Laura Copley, a licensed professional counsellor specialising in complex trauma and relationships to discuss the impact of trauma and abuse on relationships.

Dr Laura emphasises the importance of understanding the root causes of problematic behaviours in relationships particularly in the context of past experiences of trauma and abuse.

She also discusses how trauma can lead to a heightened sense of control in relationships as a way of coping with feelings of abandonment or injustice and the impact of trauma on adult relationships with a focus on the concept of attachment theory. Additionally she talks about the importance of resilience in children, particularly in the context of parenting and the potential disruption of a child's resilience when faced with chronic stressors.

Main topics

• The need for a holistic approach to healing and the importance of growth in relationships and post-traumatic growth
• The root causes of mental health and trauma issues, focusing on intergenerational patterns and parenting
• Why despite increased access to therapy and counselling, these issues have continued to worsen, suggesting a problem with traditional approaches
• The importance of addressing the broader family system and the need for all family members to take responsibility for their roles in perpetuating negative patterns
• The significance of understanding the family system as a whole, including the role of animals in reflecting and perpetuating abuse
• Why parents should not be afraid to admit when they are wrong and seek help for their children when needed

Laura’s book is called ‘Loving You is Hurting Me’ https://www.amazon.com/Loving-You-Hurting-Authentic-Connection/dp/1538741393

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