The patriarchy isn't just a buzzword thrown around by feminists. It’s a system of assumptions that shows up in your daily life, especially once you become a parent.

From the moment a baby arrives, fathers get praised for basic caregiving while mothers face relentless scrutiny and impossible standards. These patterns affect everyone, including the men who feel pressure to be instantly competent or worry that caring for their own children is somehow unmanly.

Tune in this week as I’m joined by my part-time co-host, Margaret Mason Tate, to unpack how these ingrained patterns affect families from day one and how to make parenting fairer for everyone. From pediatricians calling mom even when dad is listed as primary contact, to the myth of “natural maternal instinct” setting unrealistic expectations for women, we explore the ways assumptions and societal pressures show up in caregiving.

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