You sent the text. Now you're spiraling. Rereading it. Analyzing their response time. Convincing yourself you said too much, came on too strong, ruined everything. You're not crazy. You're not broken. You're running on outdated childhood wiring—and it's time to update the code.

In this raw solo episode, Raj shares his personal journey from crippling relationship anxiety after a nine-year relationship to finally feeling secure in love. No fluff. No generic advice. Just the actual map he walked to heal patterns of self-abandonment, people-pleasing, and the constant fear of saying the wrong thing.

In this episode, you'll discover:

→ Why your anxious attachment isn't a flaw—it's a child frozen in your nervous system between ages 4-7

→ The reason meditation and talk therapy alone can't heal relationship anxiety

→ How the wiring you developed to survive childhood is now sabotaging your adult relationships

→ The counterintuitive truth: you can't heal attachment wounds alone because you didn't get them alone

→ A simple reframe that transforms how you relate to your anxiety (hint: it involves compassion, not control)

→ The exact script Raj uses to communicate vulnerability without self-abandoning

→ Why risking losing the other person is actually the path to keeping them

→ What becomes possible when you finally stop operating from outdated programming

You're not too much. You're not too needy. You're carrying pain that was never yours to hold in the first place. This episode is your permission slip to put it down—and your roadmap to relationships that actually feel safe. Listen now and take the first step toward secure love.

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