In today's sterling episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast, Dr. John Schinnerer teams up with John O'Brien, a licensed psychologist & executive coach from Portland, Maine. Together, the Johns tackle the epidemic of rudeness plaguing our workplaces, political lives, and homes. From defining rudeness and its various types—interpersonal, cyber, and victimless—to exploring anger, incivility, and the startling impact of hostile individuals like some rude surgeons on our physical health, this episode is packed with actionable insights. They even delve into the effects of social media outrage and the challenge of maintaining self-awareness in a world that seems to reward snarky comments. Whether you're dealing with drama in your personal life or just trying to keep your cool on social media, this candid discussion is a must-listen. For those individuals who need a little rudeness rehab: start with self-awareness, therapy, mindfulness, and maybe buying John’s book. This convo oozes with insights, tough love, and a touch of irreverence. And remember, you can’t change the world overnight, but you can start by being a jerk less often to others.

Timestamps:

01:32 Defining Rudeness and Its Types

04:20 Personal Experiences with Rudeness

05:33 The Psychology Behind Rudeness

07:19 Anger and Hostility in Society

18:14 Rudeness in Professional Environments

22:25 Righteous Rudeness and Effective Communication

25:16 The Pandemic of Rudeness

27:43 Psychological Payoff of Rudeness

29:21 Self-Awareness as a Solution

32:14 Disengaging from Rude Comments

35:47 Gender and Cultural Dynamics of Rudeness

38:07 Rehabilitating Rude Behavior

39:08 The Impact of Media on Rudeness

40:15 Boundaries and Cognitive Flexibility

43:45 The Role of Emotional Reasoning

45:34 The Future of AI and Deep Fakes

47:21 Final Thoughts and Hope for Change

About Dr. John’s Valued Guest:

John M. O’Brien, Ph.D. is a professional speaker and executive coach who helps individuals and organizations create lower stress work environments that ignite employee engagement, increase productivity and strengthen profitability. He is a licensed psychologist, professional speaker, and executive coach in Portland, Maine with over 30 years experience in the mental health field as a clinician and adjunct faculty member at the University of Maine at Augusta. John is the author of a newly released book, “Rudeness Rehab: Reclaiming Civility in the Workplace and Your Home Space.”