This week, Dani is joined by Allyson, a listener of the show and valued member of our community, to talk honestly about low libido, zero sex drive, intimacy, and finding pleasure again after cancer.

Has your sex life changed? No libido? Can’t be bothered?

Allyson shares her personal journey — from enjoying a healthy sex life to suddenly being thrown into menopause during chemotherapy, and how her libido “completely left the building.” She opens up about the reality of navigating these changes, what we want, what our partners want, and how complex it can be when everything feels different.

Allyson also shares practical tips for reigniting desire and highlights why a positive mindset matters when it comes to intimacy after cancer.

At the end of the show, Dani makes an unusual offer and shares a bit more from her own experience than usual!

While Dani’s book Navigating Menopause After Cancer doesn’t go into huge detail about libido, it does cover vaginal health and vaginal oestrogen from a worldwide perspective, offering evidence-based insights and practical guidance.

The Kindle e-book is just £1.99 — so go grab your copy here https://amzn.eu/d/a2QTVE6

00:00 Intro

10:23 Seeking Menopause Support & Solutions

16:11 Grieving Sexuality After Cancer

22:39 Balancing Desire in Relationships

27:31 "Schedule Time for Self-Care"

34:23 Negative Focus in Belief Systems

44:20 Exploring Power Dynamics in Sex

52:30 Changing Perspectives on Intimacy

53:51 "Quality Over Quantity in Intimacy"

Allyson’s resources:

The book Prerequisites to Ecstasy https://amzn.eu/d/hN6IRtf

Slow Sex https://amzn.eu/d/a1dzSsN

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