Think back to childhood. Recall if you’ve ever been told:
"Don’t cry," or "Stop being so sensitive"…
Maybe even, “that didn’t happen.”
It’s a subtle, but deeply painful cut to a sensitive soul.

Many high achievers I work with
grew up in family systems where certain emotions—
like anger, sadness, or vulnerability—
were basically off-limits.
So they adapt by learning to quiet parts of themselves just to get by.
This is a contributing factor in what’s called the “fawn response”:
When you start silencing your own feelings
to keep the peace and get acceptance.

Because “I’m only safe when others around me are happy.”

But here’s the thing—
this emotional exile messes with your self-worth
and your ability to really connect.

Relationships end up feeling fake, transactional, and manipulative.
Now, from a spiritual angle
(where I find a lot of my own truth),
my psyche doesn’t just let these buried parts stay hidden from me.

It mirrors them back to me through people and situations
that irritate me the most.

Think of this as a mirror from Carl Jung’s idea:
other people’s behaviors that trigger us
often reflect what we’ve shoveled into the shadows.

Shadow work—that practice of leaning into your triggers
and physical sensations without running or getting defensive—
is where the magic begins.

When you get curious about those uncomfortable feelings
instead of pushing them away, they lose power.

You stop fighting what you’ve exiled
and start "integrating" it.

That’s when old pain turns into fuel for growth and connection.

Becoming Trigger-Proof is a messy process,
but what’s awesome about this is it builds emotional resilience
and reconnects you from your reactive self to your authentic self.

And that means better relationships with yourself and others.

If your career success isn’t translating to emotional freedom,

this might be why.

You’re not broken—
just stuck in a family pattern that’s had you fawning too long.

The good news is, you can turn it around.
Your wingman on the adventure,
Nima