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Untangling Codependency When You’re Always the Emotional Fixer

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If you grew up with a parent who had narcissistic or borderline personality disorder, codependency can sneak into your adult relationships without you even realizing it. What started as a necessary survival strategy—keeping the peace, reading the room, making yourself “easy”—turns into a lifelong pattern of people-pleasing, over-explaining, and walking on eggshells.

In this episode, we unpack the everyday signs of codependent behavior: perfectionism to avoid criticism, guilt when setting boundaries, and the urge to fix other people’s emotions so you don’t have to feel the discomfort of their disappointment or anger.

These aren’t character flaws. They’re protective coping skills from childhood—responses you had to develop in a home where your emotional needs were often dismissed, minimized, or manipulated.

We’ll talk about what it really means to work on codependency, including:

Letting go of the need to manage other people’s emotions
Asking for support without apologizing for your needs
Learning to tolerate discomfort without over-functioning
Reclaiming trust in your own voice, boundaries, and resilience

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Torie Wiksell is a therapist and coach who specializes in working with the adult children of parents with borderline and narcissistic personality disorders. Torie brings a unique perspective having spent years working with clients with personality disorders and growing up with a mother she suspects had NPD with BPD traits. Torie provides online therapy to clients located in WA, OR, and CA, and online coaching internationally.
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You're Not Crazy is a podcast owned and produced by Torie Wiksell and Confident Boundaries, LLC.

Chapters

1. Untangling Codependency When You’re Always the Emotional Fixer (00:00:00)

2. Welcome to You're Not Crazy (00:04:35)

3. Before Boundaries Mini-Course Update (00:05:45)

4. Understanding Codependency Basics (00:08:53)

5. Codependency vs. BPD Concerns (00:11:38)

6. Breaking Codependent Patterns (00:14:21)

7. Learning to Ask for Help (00:20:27)

8. Episode Wrap and Resources (00:24:33)

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