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Transforming Defensiveness: From Conflict to Connection in Relationships

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If defending yourself is important for protecting your self-respect in relationships, then why is "defensiveness" so bad? In this episode, we discuss "acceptable" and "not acceptable" defensiveness and cover strategies to transform those knee-jerk defensive reactions into opportunities for growth and connection. We talk about how to navigate the tricky terrain of criticism—whether it involves character slights or behavior-focused feedback.
We peel back the layers of defensiveness, from professional settings to the nuanced dynamics within friendships and romantic relationships. Societal issues like microaggressions play into our defensive behaviors, while empathy and understanding can bridge gaps in communication. We highlight the importance of avoiding character attacks and fostering a more open dialogue.
We share tips for handling emotional conflicts, the impact of rejection sensitivity, and how varying defense mechanisms—from primitive to mature—can either hinder or heal our interactions.

Support the show

  • If you have a loved one with mental or emotional problems, join KulaMind, our community and support platform. In KulaMind, work one on one with Dr. Kibby on learning how to set healthy boundaries, advocate for yourself, and support your loved one. *We only have a few spots left, so apply here if you're interested.

  • Follow @kulamind on Instagram for science-backed insights on staying sane while loving someone emotionally explosive.

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Chapters

1. Exploring Defensiveness in Relationships (00:00:00)

2. Navigating Defensiveness and Character Attacks (00:07:42)

3. Understanding and Managing Defensiveness (00:15:14)

4. Navigating Attention in Relationships (00:28:46)

5. Navigating Relationship Defensiveness (00:38:00)

6. Understanding Mature Defense Mechanisms (00:44:41)

7. Navigating Emotional Communication in Conflict (00:52:06)

8. Navigating Defensive Responses in Relationships (01:04:55)

142 episodes

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Manage episode 467504439 series 2859785
Content provided by Jacqueline Trumbull and Kibby McMahon, Jacqueline Trumbull, and Kibby McMahon. All podcast content including episodes, graphics, and podcast descriptions are uploaded and provided directly by Jacqueline Trumbull and Kibby McMahon, Jacqueline Trumbull, and Kibby McMahon or their podcast platform partner. If you believe someone is using your copyrighted work without your permission, you can follow the process outlined here https://staging.podcastplayer.com/legal.

Send us a text! (add your email to get a response)

If defending yourself is important for protecting your self-respect in relationships, then why is "defensiveness" so bad? In this episode, we discuss "acceptable" and "not acceptable" defensiveness and cover strategies to transform those knee-jerk defensive reactions into opportunities for growth and connection. We talk about how to navigate the tricky terrain of criticism—whether it involves character slights or behavior-focused feedback.
We peel back the layers of defensiveness, from professional settings to the nuanced dynamics within friendships and romantic relationships. Societal issues like microaggressions play into our defensive behaviors, while empathy and understanding can bridge gaps in communication. We highlight the importance of avoiding character attacks and fostering a more open dialogue.
We share tips for handling emotional conflicts, the impact of rejection sensitivity, and how varying defense mechanisms—from primitive to mature—can either hinder or heal our interactions.

Support the show

  • If you have a loved one with mental or emotional problems, join KulaMind, our community and support platform. In KulaMind, work one on one with Dr. Kibby on learning how to set healthy boundaries, advocate for yourself, and support your loved one. *We only have a few spots left, so apply here if you're interested.

  • Follow @kulamind on Instagram for science-backed insights on staying sane while loving someone emotionally explosive.

  continue reading

Chapters

1. Exploring Defensiveness in Relationships (00:00:00)

2. Navigating Defensiveness and Character Attacks (00:07:42)

3. Understanding and Managing Defensiveness (00:15:14)

4. Navigating Attention in Relationships (00:28:46)

5. Navigating Relationship Defensiveness (00:38:00)

6. Understanding Mature Defense Mechanisms (00:44:41)

7. Navigating Emotional Communication in Conflict (00:52:06)

8. Navigating Defensive Responses in Relationships (01:04:55)

142 episodes

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