The secret to calming your anxiety isn’t about calming down, but about aiming smarter. In this episode, I take you behind the scenes of two real coaching sessions—one on social anxiety, one on test anxiety—to walk you through a powerful mindset shift that can dramatically reduce anxiety and increase your sense of control. You’ll learn how to spot the real goal your brain is using to evaluate your situation—and how to swap that goal for something that actually helps you feel calm, focused, and empowered. Whether your anxiety shows up in relationships, exams, or everyday decisions, this episode gives you a repeatable framework you can use any time things feel overwhelming.
Timestamps:
01:06 – Client story #1: Social anxiety, disconnection, and the “trapped” feeling
03:46 – The danger of having goals that you can't control
04:32 – How to reframe your goals to reduce anxiety
05:29 – Process goals vs. outcome goals: what’s the difference?
9:16 – Client story #2: Test anxiety and second-guessing
13:43 – How to apply this to your stress
16:03 – Kindness narrative: A message from Mom

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