There is a message I keep getting in my DMs, and it breaks my heart every single time.

It’s too late for me to make friends. I’m too old. I’ve messed up. I missed the boat.

I get why people feel this way. Societel messages lead us to believe there is a point in our lives when, if we don’t have the community connections we want, then we will never have them.

But if you’re on the shore, watching your boat cruise away, I want to share with you a little secret: there is always another boat. The key is to stop thinking of friendship and community as something “happening” to you and instead as something you are actively building.

One of the joys of being an adult is that you get to CHOOSE who you are surrounded by. How to start? Literally, from any place, under any circumstances.

In this episode you’ll hear about:

• The challenges of transitioning from surface-level friendships to deeper, more meaningful connections
• My tackling the limiting belief that there isn’t enough time to build friendships, even if you’re only living in a place temporarily
• Why it’s never too late to change patterns and grow new roots with new or old friendships
• When social anxiety, a major life shift, or feeling “out of practice” makes social situations feel awkward – and my advice for this

Resources & Links

Listen to Episode 12 about emotional intimacy roots, Episode 69 about learned loneliness, and Episode 49 about navigating small talk.

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