We explore how the path to emotional healing often necessitates the act of acknowledging and placing blame for childhood wounds onto parents, rather than beginning with immediate forgiveness. The central argument is that difficulties faced by adults, such as low self-worth or anxiety, stem from adaptations made in childhood, leading to the heartbreaking but common conclusion, "something must be wrong with me," which serves as a survival strategy to maintain attachment to caregivers. These deep wounds often occur in seemingly "normal" homes, stemming from emotional absence or immaturity, and healing requires the grown child to dismantle this internalized shame by feeling appropriate anger and grief toward what was lacking. Ultimately, this act of truth-telling is not cruelty, but a necessary reclamation of truth that allows the adult child to move beyond self-blame, creating the potential for more authentic, boundary-based relationships—or the freedom to walk away.