Sometimes Curious, Often Confused podcast

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Spiral 21: I wasn't insecure until they named it. We all know what self-awareness can give us, but today I want to talk about what it can take away. The grief that shows up when you start noticing things you never had to worry about. The moving target of beauty standards. The way someone else’s comment can make a part of you feel strange, even if it never felt that way before. What do you do with the parts of yourself that only started feeling unfamiliar after someone else noticed them? This episode was inspired in part by a post shared by Ogechi Muogbo on Facebook. Read her original post here: https://www.facebook.com/100011411473790/posts/pfbid021SnnRbU8RrkLjiiD5RW9NK9T6heXe7zHa4ytnNBRhMvrQDdX2iJK51mdo61AFLtul/?app=fbl Let’s talk about it. Send feedback or suggestion Email: ⁠⁠ ⁠⁠dearscoc@gmail.com⁠⁠⁠ ⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/scocpod⁠⁠ ⁠ ⁠⁠Tiktok: ⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/scocpod⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠ Follow me: ⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/richsomto⁠⁠ ⁠ All links in one place: ⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.linktr.ee/scocpod⁠⁠ ⁠ ⁠Y⁠our response might be featured in a future episode. Please indicate in the same email/DM if you’d prefer to remain anonymous.…

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The Devil You Know: Why We Stay in Situations That No Longer Serve Us 12:02

11 days ago12:02

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Spiral 20: The Devil You Know: Why We Stay in Situations That No Longer Serve Us We have all made excuses for people's recklessness just because there is a part of them that we admire, and that part of them, the one we love them for usually has little or nothing to do with what they are being held accountable for in the moment. Why do we do this? Why do we keep showing up for people who’ve already shown us who they are? Let’s talk about it. Send feedback or suggestion Email: ⁠⁠ ⁠dearscoc@gmail.com⁠⁠ ⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/scocpod⁠ ⁠ ⁠⁠Tiktok: ⁠⁠⁠ ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/scocpod⁠ ⁠⁠⁠ Follow me: ⁠⁠⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/richsomto⁠ ⁠ All links in one place: ⁠⁠⁠ ⁠https://www.linktr.ee/scocpod⁠ ⁠ ⁠Y⁠our response might be featured in a future episode. Please indicate in the same email/DM if you’d prefer to remain anonymous.…

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Maturing early, but at what cost? 22:58

18 days ago22:58

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Spiral 19: Maturing early, but at what cost? You know, we love when children start acting mature early. We clap for them. We say, "Wow, you’re so responsible. You’re so reasonable. You’re so mature." And who doesn’t like that? Who doesn’t love a child that acts older than their age?Because it makes your job easier. And who doesn't want easy? It’s almost like half of your job is already done. Now, you don't have to teach them every step of the way. But deep down, a part of that child is being rushed. A part of them that they don't get back. Let’s talk about it. Send feedback or suggestion Email: ⁠⁠ dearscoc@gmail.com⁠ ⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/scocpod ⁠ ⁠⁠Tiktok: ⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/scocpod ⁠⁠⁠ Follow me: ⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/richsomto ⁠ All links in one place: ⁠⁠⁠ https://www.linktr.ee/scocpod ⁠ ⁠Y⁠our response might be featured in a future episode. Please indicate in the same email/DM if you’d prefer to remain anonymous.…

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What if you became the friend you wanted? 24:53

25 days ago24:53

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Spiral 18: What if you became the friend you wanted? We want people to show up for us the same way we show up for others. But who gets to show up first is usually an internal debate. In this episode, I discuss the upside of showing up first for "our people". Here's a little question: How much help do the nice, selfless ones actually need? Let’s talk about it. Send feedback or suggestion Email: ⁠ dearscoc@gmail.com ⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/scocpod ⁠⁠Tiktok: ⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/scocpod ⁠⁠ Follow me: ⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/richsomto All links in one place: ⁠⁠ https://www.linktr.ee/scocpod ⁠Y⁠our response might be featured in a future episode. Please indicate in the same email/DM if you’d prefer to remain anonymous.…

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Maybe Consistency Isn't Overrated 14:59

5 weeks ago14:59

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Spiral 17: Maybe Consistency Isn't Overrated Sometimes consistency feels overrated. It feels like showing up daily doesn’t mean anything if you don’t see results.But what if the real power of consistency isn’t about instant results but about staying in the game long enough to grow?Could it be that consistency is less about daily progress and more about keeping yourself in motion, so you don’t fall behind? Let’s talk about it. Send feedback or suggestions Email: ⁠ dearscoc@gmail.com ⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/scocpod ⁠⁠ Tiktok: ⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/scocpod ⁠⁠ Follow me: ⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/richsomto All links in one place: ⁠⁠ https://www.linktr.ee/scocpod ⁠Y⁠our response might be featured in a future episode. Please indicate in the same email/DM if you’d prefer to remain anonymous.…

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What if fame had an off button? 14:23

6 weeks ago14:23

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Spiral 16: What if fame had an off button? Can we talk about what people think fame is? Because that’s not the same as what it really is. In this episode, I’m starting a new series "If Wishes Were Horses, Beggars Would Fly" and we’re beginning with the dream of fame. From the highs of recognition to the pressure of staying in character, I’m wondering… what’s the real cost of being known? And if there was an off-switch for famewould anybody use it? Let’s talk about it. Send feedback or suggestions Email: ⁠ dearscoc@gmail.com ⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/scocpod ⁠⁠Tiktok: ⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/scocpod ⁠⁠Follow me: ⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/scocpod ⁠⁠ All links in one place: ⁠⁠ https://www.linktr.ee/scocpod ⁠Y⁠our response might be featured in a future episode. Please indicate in the same email/DM if you’d prefer to remain anonymous.…

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Access Granted 7:54

7 weeks ago7:54

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Spiral 15: Access Granted What if every thought, compliment, or criticism needed permission before it could shape how we see ourselves? In this episode, I’m thinking out loud about the mental checkpoints we don’t even realize we have—and how trust, self-image, and past experiences decide what gets through. Who have we given access to… and why? And more importantly, what would happen if we got better at choosing? Let’s talk about it. Send feedback or suggestions: Let’s talk about it. Send feedback or suggestions: Email: ⁠dearscoc@gmail.com ⁠Instagram: ⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/scocpod⁠ ⁠ Tiktok: ⁠ ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/scocpod⁠ ⁠ Follow me: ⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/richsomto⁠ ⁠ All links in one place: ⁠ ⁠https://www.linktr.ee/scocpod⁠ Y⁠our response might be featured in a future episode. Please indicate in the same email/DM if you’d prefer to remain anonymous.…

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How Are You, Really? 4:35

8 weeks ago4:35

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When was the last time you really checked in with yourself? Not just a quick "I'm fine," but an actual moment to pause and ask… How am I, really? In this episode, we take a step back—just for a little while. No pressure, no overthinking. Just a question worth asking. So… how are you? Send feedback or suggestions: Email: dearscoc@gmail.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/scocpod Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/scocpod Follow me: https://www.instagram.com/richsomto All links in one place: https://www.linktr.ee/scocpod Your response might be featured in a future episode. Please indicate in the same email/DM if you’d prefer to remain anonymous.…

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The Mindset Trap: The Prison of Being Right 21:50

9 weeks ago21:50

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We all say we want open conversations, but do we really allow people to change their minds? From influencers to politicians to everyday social media debates, there’s an unspoken rule: once you’ve taken a stance, you’d better stick with it—because admitting you were wrong? That’s risky.Why do we cling to old opinions, even when we know better? Is it integrity, or just fear? And where do we draw the line between accountability and growth?Maybe the real trap isn’t being wrong—it’s never letting ourselves admit when we are. Let’s talk about it. Send feedback or suggestions: Email: dearscoc@gmail.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/scocpod Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/scocpod Follow me: https://www.instagram.com/richsomto All links in one place: https://www.linktr.ee/scocpod Your response might be featured in a future episode. Please indicate in the same email/DM if you’d prefer to remain anonymous.…

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The Fear of Letting Go 26:18

10 weeks ago26:18

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Ever had the perfect comeback—only for the moment to slip away? Or worse, forgotten what you were about to say entirely? That sting of loss isn’t just about words—it’s about ideas, relationships, and the things we struggle to hold onto. Why do we cling to people, even when we’re not sure they belong in our lives? Why do we hoard thoughts, fearing we’ll never come up with something better? Is loss even real, or do we just convince ourselves it is? Maybe letting go isn’t about forgetting—it’s about trusting that what’s meant to stay will stay. Let’s talk Send feedback or suggestions: dearscoc@gmail.com or connect on Instagram @scocpod and @richsomto for updates. Your response might be featured in a future episode. Please indicate in the same email if you’d prefer to remain anonymous.…

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Nobody Is Themselves Anymore 26:36

11 weeks ago26:36

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In this episode, we dive into the blurry line between authenticity and performance. From influencers faking beach cleanups to the oddly consistent formula of online apology videos (cue the hoodie and soft voice), we ask: Is expressing ourselves still genuine, or has it all become a script? Why does confidence feel like something we have to rehearse? Why do even vulnerability and sadness have a “look”? And if being yourself requires effort, is it even real? Let’s unpack the ways we perform emotions—for others and maybe even for ourselves. Stay with me. Send feedback or suggest a topic: dearscoc@gmail.com or connect on Instagram @scocpod and @richsomto for updates. Your response might be featured in a future episode. Please indicate in the same email if you’d prefer to remain anonymous.…

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Overthinking is my Full-time job with no pay 26:01

14 weeks ago26:01

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Episode 10: Overthinking Let's have a deep dive into the endless spiral of overthinking! In this episode, we unpack the mental gymnastics of analyzing every conversation, decision, and potential worst-case scenario—because why let things go when you can dissect them for hours? From replaying awkward interactions to preparing for debates that may never happen, we explore the exhausting (yet oddly entertaining) world of overthinking. Grab a chair, your existential dread, and let’s overanalyze everything together. Send feedback or suggest a topic: dearscoc@gmail.com or connect on Instagram @scocpod and @richsomto for updates. Your response might be featured in a future episode. Please indicate in the same email if you’d prefer otherwise or if you’d like to remain anonymous.…

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Fear of Ruined Reputation: Why We Worry About Judgment even Before Success 14:49

16 weeks ago14:49

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Season 1: Why We Do What We Do and Why It’s Not Weird | Episode 9 Why are we so afraid of ruining our reputation, even if no one knows who we are? In this episode, we delve into the fear of being canceled, why we worry about our reputation, and the pressure to be perfect—even before we go viral. Whether you’re an aspiring creator or someone trying to avoid judgment, this episode uncovers the causes behind the fear of losing it all. Subscribe for more thought-provoking episodes. Send feedback or suggest a topic: dearscoc@gmail.com or connect on Instagram @scocpod and @richsomto for updates. Your response might be featured in a future episode. Please indicate in the same email if you’d prefer otherwise or if you’d like to remain anonymous.…

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The Productivity Myth: Why Less Sleep Won't Make You More Successful 11:00

17 weeks ago11:00

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Season 1: Why We Do What We Do and Why It’s Not Weird | Episode 8 Is staying up late really the secret to getting more done? Or is it just a trap we keep falling for? In this episode of Sometimes Curious, Often Confused, I break down the myth of late-night productivity and why sacrificing sleep often backfires. We'll explore why we convince ourselves we work better at night, the impact of sleep deprivation on focus, and whether more rest could actually make you more productive. If you're stuck in the cycle of working late and feeling exhausted, this episode is for you Subscribe for more thought-provoking episodes. Send feedback or suggest a topic: dearscoc@gmail.com or connect on Instagram @scocpod and @richsomto for updates. Your response might be featured in a future episode. Please indicate in the same email if you’d prefer otherwise or if you’d like to remain anonymous.…

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Self-Perception, Confidence, and Seeking Validation: When Approval Helps and When It Hurts 20:01

18 weeks ago20:01