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Loneliness is hitting men hard — but you’re not stuck with it. In this episode, therapist Tim Wienecke (LPC, LAC) talks with Atlanta-based counselor Phillip Quinones, M.S., LPC about living alone without feeling isolated, using anger as a boundary signal, and building the kind of community that actually supports you.

Show notes & links: www.americanmasculinity.com
Guest site: https://pqcoachingandconsulting.com/

Key takeaways:
• Loneliness is a real health risk — and there are specific, doable ways to counter it
• Anger is information: a boundary cue that can also mask fear/shame
• Talking ≠ processing — add skills so conversations lead to change
• Money stress can mimic/trigger depression — get practical support
• Progress beats perfection for sustainable motivation
• Status symbols won’t fill you; presence and people will

Chapters:
0:00 Intro & Phillip’s background
3:00 Loneliness in modern America
5:00 Men’s friendships, self-esteem, and boundaries
7:00 How men and women often connect differently
11:00 Boundaries + anger: “the bouncer”
15:00 Why schools rarely teach emotional skills or finance
22:00 Talking vs processing (and how to practice)
31:00 Money stress, depression, and adjustment responses
37:00 Progress > success: motivation that lasts
44:00 Culture, status symbols, and real fulfillment
50:00 Accountability & building a ramp to change
59:00 Closing empowerment: “Nobody was you…”

References cited:
Surgeon General (2023) loneliness advisory: https://www.hhs.gov/sites/default/files/surgeon-general-social-connection-advisory.pdf
Pew (2023) friendship patterns: https://www.pewresearch.org/short-reads/2023/10/12/what-does-friendship-look-like-in-america/
Ryan & Deci — Self-Determination Theory: https://selfdeterminationtheory.org/SDT/documents/2000_RyanDeci_SDT.pdf
Dittmar et al. (2014) materialism & well-being: https://selfdeterminationtheory.org/wp-content/uploads/2019/08/2014_DittmarBondHurstKasser_PPID.pdf
CTA: If this resonated, follow the show and share it with a friend living solo.
Disclaimer: Educational content, not therapy. If you’re in crisis, seek local professional help.

The American Masculinity Podcast™ is hosted by Timothy Wienecke — licensed psychotherapist, Air Force veteran, and men’s advocate.
Real conversations about masculinity, mental health, growth, and how men can show up better — as partners, leaders, and friends.
We focus on grounded tools, not yelling or clichés. If you have questions or want a tool for something you're wrestling with, leave a comment or send a message — your feedback shapes what we build next.
Note: While this doesn’t replace therapy, it might help you notice something worth exploring.

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Chapters

1. Intro & Phillip's background (00:00:00)

2. Loneliness in modern America (00:03:00)

3. Men's friendships, self-esteem, and boundaries (00:05:00)

4. How men and women often connect differently (00:07:00)

5. Boundaries + anger: "the bouncer" (00:11:00)

6. Why schools rarely teach emotional skills or finance (00:15:00)

7. Talking vs processing (and how to practice) (00:22:00)

8. Money stress, depression, and adjustment responses (00:31:00)

9. Progress beats success: motivation that lasts (00:37:00)

10. Culture, status symbols, and real fulfillment (00:44:00)

11. Accountability & building a ramp to change (00:50:00)

12. Closing empowerment: "Nobody was you…" (00:59:00)

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