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Trying Too Hard to Fix It: When Enough Finally Becomes Enough
Manage episode 485682382 series 3278947
If you’ve been bending over backwards trying to fix a relationship that keeps breaking you… this episode is for you.
Today, I’m sharing a personal story about the moment I was asked a question that stopped me in my tracks: “Can you honestly say you’ve done everything you know to do?” That one question made me face the truth — not about the relationship, but about how much of myself I had been pouring into something that couldn’t be repaired by effort alone.
In this episode, we explore:
Why survivors of covert narcissistic abuse try so hard to fix what isn’t fixable
How over-functioning keeps us stuck in one-sided emotional labor
What “giving it your all” really means — and what it doesn’t
The illusion of the “one right book, podcast, or article” that will finally make them change
The moment you realize you’ve done enough — even if they never did
How to stop proving your pain and start honoring your healing
You don’t have to wait until you’re completely broken to say, “That’s enough.”
You’re allowed to stop trying when your trying is costing you your peace, your clarity, and your self-worth.
348 episodes
Manage episode 485682382 series 3278947
If you’ve been bending over backwards trying to fix a relationship that keeps breaking you… this episode is for you.
Today, I’m sharing a personal story about the moment I was asked a question that stopped me in my tracks: “Can you honestly say you’ve done everything you know to do?” That one question made me face the truth — not about the relationship, but about how much of myself I had been pouring into something that couldn’t be repaired by effort alone.
In this episode, we explore:
Why survivors of covert narcissistic abuse try so hard to fix what isn’t fixable
How over-functioning keeps us stuck in one-sided emotional labor
What “giving it your all” really means — and what it doesn’t
The illusion of the “one right book, podcast, or article” that will finally make them change
The moment you realize you’ve done enough — even if they never did
How to stop proving your pain and start honoring your healing
You don’t have to wait until you’re completely broken to say, “That’s enough.”
You’re allowed to stop trying when your trying is costing you your peace, your clarity, and your self-worth.
348 episodes
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