What if the exhausting chase for love—the overthinking, overgiving, people-pleasing, and shrinking yourself just to be chosen—was never your fault… but the result of a belief system that was handed down to you without your consent?
In this raw and soul-stirring episode of The Femme Cast, I’m pulling back the curtain on one of the deepest wounds so many women carry: the belief that love must be earned.
If you've ever asked yourself:

🎤 “Why do I keep chasing emotionally unavailable partners?”
🎤 “Why do I lose myself in relationships that never truly nourish me?”
🎤 “What would it look like to choose myself—really, deeply, unapologetically?”
…this conversation is for you.
We’ll explore how this subconscious conditioning—passed through generations, religion, school systems, and patriarchal programming—has created a dangerous pattern of self-abandonment in the name of love. You’ll hear intimate, never-before-shared stories from my own dating history (hello, circus-in-my-head level overthinking 👀) and how I finally stopped performing, contorting, and settling for breadcrumbs… and reclaimed my wholeness.
In this episode, we dive into:

🎤 The hidden origins of the “I must earn love” wound—and why it’s not your fault
🎤 How this belief leads us to chase chemistry while ignoring compatibility
🎤 The moment I decided to stop performing for love and what shifted after
🎤 What it really means to trust that you are enough, as you are
🎤 How to reverse-engineer this pattern and attract love from a place of wholeness, not hustle
This isn’t just about relationships. It’s a full-body reclamation of your self-worth, your desires, and your sacred “no more.”
You’ll walk away with the clarity to stop asking “How can I get them to love me?” and start asking “Is this even someone I want in my life?”
Because the truth is: you don’t have to earn love. You were born worthy of it. And when you finally stop chasing what’s not aligned… you create space for what deeply is.
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