45. 🥊 Fighting for Understanding: Navigating ADHD in Family Relationships

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Hiiiii ADHD bestiesssss we’re back with another symposium on why-ADHD-can-suck-but-it’s-also-going-to-be-okay-we-promise!

This time we’re diving into the complexity of family relationships with ADHD and covering the best dilemmas from the last 40+ episodes on dynamics with parents, parents-in-law, partners etc *Dun dun duuun!*

Dilemma 1 - Holly sends a voice message dilemma on sharing her diagnosis from family and friends and facing stigma and gaslighting.

We discuss:

ADHD's frequency and intensity
The invisible nature of ADHD
Common misconceptions and how to address them
The energy drain of ADHD advocacy—when and how to engage

Dilemma 2 - An anon listener asks about an offhand comment from a mother-in-law that made this listener feel lazy

We discuss:

Stopping ADHD self-criticism spirals
Handling criticism & passive aggression
Why parent comments trigger ADHDers
Re-parenting your inner child with ADHD
The invisible emotional load in ADHD families

Dilemma 3 - Sarah asks: “My parents don’t seem to acknowledge or understand my ADHD. I’m 27 and still living at home, and my mum is very critical of me and my anxiety.”

We discuss:

ADHD & setting boundaries with parents
Un-enmeshing from family dynamics
Building trust through neutral & fun connections

Dilemma 4 - A gorgeous neurotypical listener asks about how to support his ADHD girlfriend, especially with confidence, negative self talk and finding accommodations for her.

We discuss:

Overcoming ADHD self-criticism
Breaking unconscious negative thought patterns
Separating thoughts from identity for self-awareness

Dilemma 5 - “How do I get my Mum to understand I’m not lazy and it’s not that I don’t care - I’m trying my best”

We discuss:

Neurodivergent energy levels & the need for rest
ADHD hyperfocus & losing track of time
Sensory overwhelm & inconsistent behavior in ADHD
Parental guilt about late ADHD recognition
Navigating conversations with undiagnosed ADHD parents

We love you 4evs and we will be back with a VERY SPECIAL episode next week with the one and only Emma from @emmasmindovermatter!!!

RSDing is out of the question, as always!

GB and T

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