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What happens when the very tactics that make you successful in business destroy everything that matters at home? Phil Herrington spent 33 years perfecting the art of aggressive sales - cold calling, door-to-door, trampling over objections and people alike. He called himself "a rhino" because he bulldozed through relationships for quick wins.
"30 calls a day keeps poverty away" was his mantra. He made millions by treating every interaction as a transaction, every person as a target, every relationship as disposable.
Then his marriage became the casualty.
The divorce hit him like a freight train, forcing him to face a devastating truth: the ruthless tactics that built his career had made him incapable of real connection. He was a master at getting what he wanted from people, but had never learned how to actually care about them.
Alone in Boise, knowing nobody, Phil had to choose: keep being the rhino who trampled hearts for profit, or learn what he'd spent 33 years destroying - how to build genuine relationships.
Discover how a man who burned bridges for business learned to become "The Connector" - and why the skills that make you unstoppable professionally might be the exact things killing your marriage.
Timestamps:
[02:15] The "rhino mentality" that destroyed relationships for profit
[05:30] When 33 years of trampling people caught up with him
[08:45] The divorce that forced him to face the truth
[12:20] Learning connection from scratch at rock bottom
[16:40] Why business tactics and love tactics are opposites
[20:10] How to stop being a rhino at home
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Chapters
1. Meeting Phil the Connector (00:00:00)
2. From Cold Calling to Relationship Building (00:05:43)
3. The Accidental Sale Experience (00:09:31)
4. Difference Between Sales and Relationships (00:13:58)
5. Creating a New Connection Platform (00:19:17)
6. Finding Your Strategic Partners (00:23:16)
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