In Part 1 of this 3-episode series, John Kim and licensed therapist Rebecca Prolman break down attachment trauma in clear, human terms. They unpack emotional neglect, nervous-system dysregulation, the NARM approach (NeuroAffective Relational Model), and why so many of us carry shame that isn’t ours. You’ll learn the core dilemma children face (“stay connected to myself or stay safe in the bond?”), how that shapes adult relationships, and why agency + self-compassion are non-negotiables for healing.

What you’ll learn:

• Attachment trauma vs “big-T” trauma
• Emotional neglect and why it’s so slippery to see
• The core dilemma and how shame gets internalized
• NARM, survival strategies, and nervous-system regulation
• Why we numb (food, sex, alcohol, scrolling)
• Agency: choosing with awareness instead of self-shame

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